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Hi All,
I have a date in October for a final hearing.
Does anyone have experience of these and can offer insight or advice and guidance please?
Regards,
Dave
Dispue resolution i'm assuming is her argument as to why you shouldn't have contact or yours for why you should have contact or should have more contact.
Mine was back at the beginning of December 2012 so the old memory is a little hazy given the last few months of more cr*p the ex has put me through.
Basically the Final hearing was going over everything that had gone on before, a few extra bits of things thrown in last min by the ex but everything was backed up in my favour as I had the proof and was able to shoot her down in front of the judge with everything she tried.
The best advice I can offer is as I always do…be honest, truthful and don’t get dragged in to arguing with the ex in front of the judge….the other side will try and make it seem like they are attacking you personally….stick to your prepared points, and if you can prove anything she is claiming in her statement is false make sure you have it highlighted and the proof with you and take it to court with copies for the judge and the other side....don’t be afraid to offer it to the judge as it will back you up its got to be recognised by the court!
I went through my ex’s statement and made notes against each point….these were to refer the judge to the evidence I’d provided to support my case and to point the judge to the parts in my statement that showed the events/claims as they really happened.
Preparation is key….go through your notes several times adding to them and ensuring you haven’t forgotten anything you want to rely on.
You will need these notes, as you go through them I “ticked” them off so I didn’t get myself lost, things do get a little fuzzy when in the heat of it all in court and you need to have these notes to remind you.
I’m sure there are others here who may have better more recent hearings than mine, I’m sure they’ll be able to chip in with some advice.
Good luck
Thank D - I - D,
Good advice.
I will start with her statement and collate response and evidence.
Regards,
Dave
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