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Mother financially motivated to prevent staying access as a result of CSA system (i.e. the less overnight she gives the more I pay) – I am paying the maximum under the CSA guideline at the moment and this in no way represents the cost of bringing up our child, the cash is being used to finance additional houses being rented for income and to use to fight me to prevent staying access - thsi is perverse . and my ex has a very decent salary as a corporate lawyer so doesnt need the money – what action is being taken or could be taken to prevent this injustice - what options are open to me ? apart from not paying and potentially attracting prosecution and or the CSA taking direct from my employers and subsequent criminal action (is this really likely?) against me which I dont suppose will get me anywhere under the legal system apart from a criminal record ? (doesnt seem particularly attractive proposition) any help appreciated
good grief - after my last reply to you saying you were asking questions I have experience of, you now say your ex is a corporate lawyer. Are you sure you weren't married to my ex as she was a corporate lawyer ;;)
Actually, she isn't now as the alcohol took it's toll and she became unemployable.
What your ex is doing is legal technically, but not morally correct. I would not bring this up in any action to get increased contact. A court is not going to be impressed if the argument is considered to be for financial reasons by either party - they are interested in the welfare of children (may not always seem that way) and that's what you need to concentrate on to get increased contact.
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