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So, My relationship with my ex wasnt great, I was nasty to her and I know that. we had been broken up for 4 months when she found out she was pregnant.
Since our daughter was born shes pushed me to be a dad, To be honest, Im not maternal. I plan to be leaving the country soon too as I have a career opportunity abroad.
After an arguement with my daughters mum today she asked me if i even want to be a dad and I was honest and said no.
I agree with her, It is better our child have no dad than a dad who isnt interested.
ive said i will walk out of their lives now and not come back, she dont believe me. she thinks i will get bored in a few months and come back to cause some drama and stress like i always do.
So to "prove" to her im serious, I said I will hand over his parental responsibility in front of a judge.
How do we go about it? (I understand he needs to apply for the Discharge of a parental responsibility order or agreement)
What circumstances will a judge accept him handing over his parental responsibility?
Is there another way? Like a form where he hands his rights over or is it the Discharge of a parental responsibility route we take?
Discharge of Parental Responsibility Order can only be granted for adopted children or someone that has a Parental Responsibility agreement or Parental Responsibility granted by a court.
There isnt any way a father can just hand back his rights....if you dont want to be in the childs life then the only recourse you have is to walk away.
....if you dont want to be in the childs life then the only recourse you have is to walk away.
... but I think you'll regret it eventually if you do 🙁
I've read your post again and I find it a little confusing as you start off writing the post as if you are the dad, but the last couple of paragraphs is written as if you are the mother? :unsure:
Maybe you felt as the mother you shouldnt be asking as its a Dads Forum....but there are a number of women that post on here and are treated with nothing but respect, so theres no need to worry.
Actd is right though, there is likely to come a time when regret takes hold....and as always in situations like this its the children that suffer. Ask anyone that has grown up not knowing their father and they will tell you about the huge gap it has left in their lives. Its not easy being a good parent but the rewards are immeasurable.
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