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hi everyone
new on here and things are still very raw .
i have a one year old son and me and the mother have split up . nothing has gone to court yet over where the little one stays when and who with ( hope to keep it that way) but now my ex is starting to pull the strings.i have a large family holiday booked next year around 10k of one which was booked when we was still together its a year of 5 big birthdays and we have rolled them all into one big holiday . now my ex is saying my son cant go. and will leave me with no chose but to go to court.
what i was wondering is do the courts take into consideration the other people that are going with you. or has any one had the same thing or any advise
thanks
Hi Jimmymac,
I am myself going to court to allow me to take my son on holiday, my court date is the 3rd December, as far as I am aware you have as much right to take your child abroad as the mother does however you doo need her permission and likewise she would need yours to do the same.
The judge shouldn't look at who else is going other than it would allow your child to continue to build relations with extended family, the only exception to this is if someone was going that hqas been proven to be a threat to children (and i'm sure you wouldn't be taking them if this were the case)
If you are going to court then I would suggest that you may want to get a full contact order set in place so your time with your child is future proof.
Have you and your ex tried mediation? if not be prepaired for the judge to ask you both to attend the Judge may rule on the holiday as you need this resolved quickly but ask that you attend mediation to arrange the rest.
Darren
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