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Hi - what a great resource! Somewhere I can get some sensible impartial advice from experienced people who have been in same situations. Basically am considering divorce and want to ensure my wife doesn't clean me out. I own flat (mortgaged), house (mortgaged) and our family home (mortgaged) plus own outright a place abroad (her sister lives there for free). Hoping I can get a clean break and have her take the apartment abroad (her home country - worth about £70k) and avoid having to pay CSA. Would be delighted to take on both our children (2yo and 4yo) and have nanny/housekeeper instead and she has had plenty out of me already! Sorry if I sound mean - have been treated disrespectfully for years (since 1st born) and am sick of it now. All advice gratefully received. Thanks everyone. Robert.
Hi Robert,
If you need advice on issues relating to contact or residency, we can certainly help. However I'm not really any kind of expert on divorce law and I would suggest that you obtain professional legal advice asap.
Is there no way that you can repair the relationship? Have you considered relationship counselling?
FM '70
Hi There,
As film maker has said, I would consult with a solicitor, but I would also say that it sometimes is false econamy to fight too hard over money and property, Try not to be extremely rigid on what you will accept as reasonable clean break terms as you could end up spending more on solicitors fees than the amount percentage you are fighting to gain.
It seems as though you have a lot of assets to share out, although the property abroad is used by her sister it may not factor highly on her list's of what she would like to gain, so start to think about different compromises in case this is the case.
It doesn't seem like you are being unreasonable with what you are prepaired to offer her but she may not want to leave the country and just consider that if she does she will probably want to take your children with her, by offering property in the uk instead the children will be able to remain in a house where your contact would be easier, I know you say you would take both children and have a nanny, but if this doesn't happen and the property you have given up isn't in the uk then you may be giving her ideas to leave and live there.
Give some thought to maybe offering up property in the uk instead so you have a back up to her using the leverage of taking the children abroad to live in the house you are offering her at present.
Darren
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