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I met with my solicitor on Friday, she pointed out that if my (soon to be) ex-wife doesn't agree to me having unsupervised contact at the 1st court hearing, it will take 20 weeks for CAFCASS to report back to the court after their investigations. After that, the court can start doing something.
I've done nothing wrong. My ex has no grounds to stop me from seeing my son, we were married when he was born, I've never abused her or him, I've always paid CSA on time and in full. She decided to leave me as she re-found her faith in Islam and couldn't be with a non-believer.
The only things she "could" claim are:
- I've openly admitted that I used to smoke cannabis (as the wife did, too), but we stopped a long time ago.
- I drink alcohol (the wife did, too), around 10-12 units a week (far from being an alcoholic).
- I had 2 strokes last year, but my consultant has said I'm capable of looking after a child.
My solicitor said that instead of the ex having to show that I'm not safe to look after our son, that she only has to accuse me of something I have to pay for the drug or alcohol testing or get a stroke specialist to attend the court.
At the moment, my son is being brought up being spoken to in Punjabi - in England (even though my ex & I are English - but her family want him to speak Punjabi, Hindi, Urdu & Arabic - "he'll learn English at school") by people that have openly admitted that they don't like white people, non-believers and the British culture. I don't want to stop him from learning about both backgrounds, but she only wants him to learn about her heritage. I'm concerned that the longer he's only with Asian Muslims with superiority complexes, that he'll not want to be with me.
So as a father, I'm guilty until I can prove myself innocent. But to get the court to stop her from doing her "parental alienation", I have to prove she's guilty.
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