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hi i am a dad of two beautiful children little girl who is 17 month and 5 year old boy i seperated from wife in june and it has become messy at first she said i was moody and had told my son off for being naughty to much. we were on speaking terms and she arranged play day with mmy daughter for one hour but said son didnt want to come which i said ok not a problem then things have turned sour she said i bugged during contact about our relationship. then she went to a solictor and we arranged a contact meet for 2 hours supervised by her mam and dad which i have to say didnt sound brilliant but agreed as i got to spend time with son and daughter it was a nightmare having ex parents looking down on me but got through it the next day they changed the arrangement so i said why dont we sort this out in mediation which has not happened my wife then took out non molestation order out to which i took a undertaking as it was my only option.
i got a solictor and tried arranging contact but got negatives back saying i was not a good influence so i asked if she would allow me to have supervised contact in contact centre to see my children with someone inderpendant sh refused that so decided i would apply for contact through court as i got forms filled in she started saying i had mentally and physically abused my son in the end because of her lies i have decided not to persue contact as i feel it will damage my children in long run am i doing right thing
Your confidence has taken a proper battering with all the accusations that have been flung at you., you're probably feeling pretty powerless at the moment... My advice to you would be to take some time out and get yourself back on track. You need to recharge your batteries and build your confidence back up. Then when you are feeling better, re evaluate how you feel and what you should do.
I always think that parents should fight for their right to be a parent, and children need both parents in their lives. Courts and judges arn't stupid and they hear false accusations being made all the time, they will want both parents involved in a childs life and will usually facilitate contact wether the mother wants it or not. Because of the molestation order it is likely that supervised contact at a centre will be ordered initially, but that wouldn't be forever...When you are able to prove you have your childrens best interests at heart then you will be allowed unsupervised contact. Patience is what you need right now and a little breathing space.
Good luck.
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