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Hey i was wondering if someone can help me? My ex wife and I are split up almost 2 years we have 2 kids together and the spit has been fairly calm since then but last year I met my current partner, and my ex didnt like it although 4 weeks after we wed she left me and had some new man living in the house with the kids. I never gave her any grief about her decisions but last December my ex hacked into my new partners Facebook account and sent vile messages from it. In January i moved to Ireland. I never abandoned my children i still pay for them every week i was up untill last week in contact with them. Every few weeks my ex will call and hurl some abuse down the phone to myself and my partner. The children were to come visit us yesterday but as my ex found out my new partner is pregnant she called me last week and hurled abuse down the phone saying the baby wasn't even mine and that she was turning my 2 kids against my partner and i. our unborn child and my partners 2 year old child so i made the very hard decision to not have the kids over. Because of this she has told me i can no longer see my children. I dont think this is fair is there anything anyone can tell me in regards to my situation??
Thanks
Dave
Hi and welcome.
Firstly, I would make sure that the security on yours and your partners facebook is as it should be, and that your ex can't see anything at all.
You could apply for a prohibited steps order to try to prevent the abuse, but I suspect that your ex wouldn't comply so it would propably be more aggravation. I would suggest that you change your number and get a cheap pay as you go mobile for your ex to contact you on, and use it only for this, and to contact your children. That way you have control of when she contacts you and she can't subject your partner to any abuse.
Hi and welcome.
Firstly, I would make sure that the security on yours and your partners facebook is as it should be, and that your ex can't see anything at all.
I would agree on this 100% My ex used Facebook to see what I was doing and managed to also use twitter to contact a friend of mine asking if we were seeing each other, I use facebook as little as possible and only send private messages to people, no one can find my profile on a search either. It's bad when you have to protect yourself to that degree I know but then to be fair even if I hadn't had issues I'd probably have used as much security as possible.
Darren
Hi, she can't see my partners facebook page as all our emails and passwords have been changed and they have no friends in common but no matter how many people i deleted from mine she was still able to see. I come to the conclusion that she has hacked into a friends account using their email and can see mine that way. She is very sly and hidden. She has tried numerous times to drive a wedge between myself and my partner, now my kids wont even talk to me because of the poison she is spitting. We can apply for a 2 year agreed seperation divorce in September but as i am living in Ireland and am under Irish Laws i can only apply after 4 years so i realy have to wait to see if she will serve me. She moved on just after we broke up and if im honest im fairly sure she was with him during the 4 weeks we were even married but i cant prove that. She even had a baby for him but now when i try to move on all [censored] has broken loose. I hope i get visitation in the divorce and by then its not too late.
It's an order by the court stopping someone from doing something - the problem is getting it enforced.
She does and says whatever she wants and has a very special way of making everyone believe her lies and feel sorry for her. I will be back in the UK in september i will be seeing a solicitor. I dont want anything more to do with her i just want to see my kids. Is there a way i can have visitation with them and for her to not have my address or number?
It's possible depending on your reason - I think it would really by up to the court to decide.
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