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My daughter told me on the weekend she goes to a working mens club with her mum and grandma and gets money for doing things there, it was either collecting glasses or rubbish... I know it might be harmless but I know shes there till 11pm and its a working mens club so people are drinking etc around her. In my opinion its just not the place a 6yr old child should be at all. Where do I stand and what could I do? I'm currently going through the courts fighting off her accusations of her saying I'm a bad parent and I'm always out drinking etc.. (none of it at all true as I practically dont drink!) Is it worth me getting some sort of visual evidence/footage from the club, I want to stop her going but also show its no me whos the bad parent???
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HI James,
I think the best port of call would be social services. This is quite frankly neglect if this allegation is true. 6yo's should simply be asleep at this sort of hour and not in a working mans club. The money aspect and little tasks are concerning. At 6yo its sometimes difficult to gauge what she is saying is completely correct. It may also be worth going in person and speaking to the bar manager and finding out the exact details or contacting the police asking them to do this and requesting CCTV?
If you wanted to be detective I guess you could go and investigate but the key thing should be removing your daughter from the potential dangers and contacting social services with your concerns. There should be a duty social worker in your borough.
Good luck!
I think a call to Social Services would be appropriate, however she could just deny it and depending on how good they are as to whether they would follow it up or not.
If you know the whereabouts of the club you could go there and find out for yourself and then telephone the police and tell them what is occurring and tell them that you wish to remove your daughter to a place of safety. It would be on record with the police then and they should contact child protection as a matter of course.
Had a quick google, so not necessarily the correct answer, but I would question whether the license allows children to be on the premises at all. Could be worth having a word with the local council to see what is legal (you don't necessarily have to tell them which one at this stage) - if it isn't, then you can decide to involve the police if you wish.
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