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Hi
I am a father to 8 year old twin boys who live with their mother, my ex. I currently have the children every Monday and Tuesday for 3 and a half hours after school and from Friday night til Sunday lunchtime. I am happy with this arrangement as it means I get a lot of time with them and it also suits their mum with work etc. However, I am currently in a disagreement with her over how much time she spends with the children. One of my children has realised that although he lives with her, he doesn't feel like he spends any time with her. Of course on raising this with her she got very defensive and was in total denial, stating that she doesn't get a break from them if myself and my partner don't have the boys as much as we do. We feed them 4 nights of the week and they sleep over 2 nights of the week....I really want to know and understand why I have to pay her maintenance every month when actually they spend more time at my home using electricity, gas, water etc, than they do at their full time residence (apart from sleeping there, they spend minimal waking hours there). Having tried to explain to her that the boys are noticing that they don't spend time with her, all I get is grief. Am I better to keep my mouth shut?
Help and advice appreciated!!
Thanks
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