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I've posted a few questions on here and have always received sound advise, so here we go again. Basically, my Ex is refusing me any access at all to my children and it is most likely to be going thro solicitors now. My initial consultation appointment is tomorrow. All the time that me Ex is refusing me access, am I responsible for any payments towards the childrens maintainance etc. Currently, my Ex and children live in the house we own on a joint mortgage, and I am paying all household bills, food, petrol etc etc. Do I still have to make these payments or can I stop them until I am able to see my children and we reach an agreement, be it between is or via the legal process?
Hi There,
Contact with your children and and payment for maintanace are seperate so you still need to make the paymenst even if you are allowed access.
Not a great answer I know and I was in the same situation as you when I left my ex.
Darren
Hi 1402kev,
Are you currently living in the property?
If you do, you are also responsible for bills.
If you are not living in the property, you need to write a letter and text your ex wife to inform that from June XX you will be cancelling all payments respective of "bills".
You are liable for any necessary insurances on the property (i.e. Life and Buildings) and also the Mortgage. You need to be fair and give a month to allow her time to pick up the payments. Contact the companies who's bills you are paying and make them aware that you no longer reside at the property and make sure that the local authority is aware you no longer live there.
Make Tax Credits aware that you have moved out (very important to do ASAP).
As for maintenance, yes you still need to make maintenance payments to your ex.
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