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Any body help here?
The ex ran off to court on told lies on and Ex parti agreement. What she has done is text book style stitch up of me and pretty much is line for line what I have read in a book by Families Need Fathers.
She banned me calling the children. False claim calls bothered her, but an agreement was in place. She failed to tell me I was not allowed to call. I tried to speak to my kiddies for 13 days. Un be known to me, she was logging each in coming call as a harassing call. She answered and hung up on me , or said I could not speak to the children and hung up. She removed services from the house: cancelled me off home insurance, cancelled car break down cover on me, cancelled my works landline number, removed my internet hub from the house when I was out and left me with out any form of communications.
She even got a car signed over to her by giving false information to DVLA. I would write to her each time I found out she had covertly harassed me. We have been together 13 years. I needed to sort out child matters, finances, house issues, pick up etc. Each time I communicated it had been logged as harassment not due to content, but volume of contacts made! believe it or not, she would mail me over matters, text me to do things etc, but has only showed police one side of the story. She is that bad she has denied the paternal grandparents calls although she promised they could be made, and lied to an agency that she saw me as a risk to kiddies. However in her business life she was more than happy to jet off around the world leaving the children in my care, and at no point had reason to doubt my care. But the day she walks out she works to tell lies about me, and creates situations that resulted in me not seeing my 14 month old daughter for over 3 months! She could not validate her feelings about me., but it appears these feelings are enough to cut the bond between a father and his child. She should be ashamed of herself for what she has but me through for the last 10 months!
Because she said she is harassed , the police see her as harassed ( however they did not apply that rationale to me) and have gone to CPS who are now prosecuting. CPS did not have my side of the story. I am now at logger heads with the police who lied to me and did not allow me to report harassment in April 2013 from my wife. They also tell me because she reported me first ( end of may) then there is nothing I can do. Because she lied and reported me she has indemnity from allegations against her, or any prosecution.
I have wrote to Home Secretary today, and to Chief Police Constable. The professional Standards Agency carried out an internal police investigation and guess what? They feel the police are OK, no issues and say that also though they mis informed me and mis led me they doubt it would have had any impact on where I am at now!!! I dispute this hence my looking for help and guidance. I have now to complain to IPCC but I am due in court at the end of November so no action will be in place to high light how the police have failed me.
Help please???
Kind regards
Steve
essjaycarp@yahoo.co.uk
Hello mate,
sounds like a dreadful situation to be in.
What has been served on you eg? Non mol order or is it a harassment order?
Have you been arrested or had any convictions previously?
IPCC would be the best people to start with as without fully knowing the facts, they ought to explore everything in a neutral and open non-judegemental manner.
BW
Boyce
Thanks BW
They served a Harassment Prosecution on me, in court on 27th Nov. I have been set up by my ex wife who has done all she can to ruin me.
I am a good honest man and have been clean as a whistle all my 43 year of living! I was daddy day care for years for my children , she was a high powered business women, she decides to leave. With in 3 weeks of leaving she claims Im a risk to kiddies, stops me seeing my little one for 13 weeks, stope paternal grandparents seeing children too and phoning them. She has covertly harassed me , threatening to ensure I end up with nothing. I have some audio files where I managed to tape her threats.
I am up on a stage 2 harassment charge. The police failed to listen to me in April when I tried to report her. They kept saying al her activities were civil!
I have reported to police, they have done a Quality Standards internal report. they say that they had misled me, had got protocols wrong, but feel it has made no difference to the outcome. I disagree!
I have to wait before I follow up with IPCC, so today I wrote to Chief Constable, and Theresa May MP to flay the gender based policing I have been subjected to, and to notify them the police have lied to me, misled me, treated me differently, and left me out to dry. I AM INNOCENT and a victim of DV, harassment and stalking, but the police turned me away many times saying its civil. I send a few mails to her to sort out finances, house, children etc, she sees call to my children as harassing, and stops calls without telling me she was stopping. She then logs each incoming call to the kids an=s a harassing call, next minute I am in for a voluntary interview with the police. I was not arrested at any time.
Good so no arrests and clean PNC already puts you into a good category.
Does she have a solicitor? If so just correspond with him and not the wife.
You need to get the issue of mediation going and submit C100 to the courts ASAP
In view of the harassment order I think it would be best to get proper legal advice. I assume most of your correspondence to her is about the kids and finances so they gotta have a pretty good case to say you have been nothing short of reasonable.
Also, I advise you to contact the Borough commander ASAP. If there is any weakness which it appears there is they have they are unlikely to be successful. There are flaws and they have failed to demonstrate fairness and impartiality particularly when you highlighed your concerns to them as far as April. Complete bias!
Boyce
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