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Hi, im in desperate need of some advice.
I have 2 daughters to my ex aged 4 and 6. My name is on the eldest daughters birth cert but not on my youngest. When she was born i had a dna test, I am the father, Yet my ex still refuses to add me to the birth certificate. Where do i stand on this? Do i have any parental rights over my youngest daughter?
She also wants to change their surnames to her new husbands (they marry this August). Obviously im against this, where do i stand legally on that issue?
As for maintenance I was paying her via the CSA until the start of this month and also giving her a lot of money extra paid direct into her bank so I have a record. We talked the CSA payment over and agreed just to pay her direct. She has since dropped this name change bombshell on me and as you can imagine things haven't been good between us.
She has revoked my access to the children and told me to go to court. We have been through this many times over 5 years but I give in after a week or so and meet her financial demands to see my children again. I am now unable to keep paying her what she wants so no more children....
I'm also newly self employed so have no books to back anything up and newly married! Will any future CSA payments take my good lady's earnings into acount?
I have kept a calendar for the last 3 years with every date the children have been here. To a point they were here with me 4 nights a week but when she realised that was going to hurt her financialy that was dropped to 3 nights, sometimes 2.
I'm no absent father, i have been in my girls lives for years.
I need help
Thx
Paul
Read on here plenty of info and you can go to court and get your name added to the birth cert, Read thestickies at the top of the page, You can also take out a probitied steps order to prevent the name change taking place. I would also file for a shared residence order as they cant change names with that in place without your consent.
Also I hope you've being paying for your kids by standing order specifically marked as child maintance if you dont then do it right away or you'll get shafted by the CSA.
The CSA will not take your new wifes earnings into account I think they tried this trick in the past and got their fingers burned.
The good thing is you have kept a record of all the dates ect this should see a reduction in the amount the CSA would base their calucations on I'd do the same based on the time they have spent with you. It will get worse before it gets better just fore arm yourself
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One quick addition to Ivan's reply - he is correct that they won't take your wife's earnings into account, but they will take tax credits into account if there are any.
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