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Hi all,
I have reported ex partners boyfriend to Police & Social Services for assault on my 5 year old son (I have PR)..his school have backed me as son has had 3 mysterious injuries since this new boyriend and ex partner took up joint residency 2 months ago. New boyriend also has a teenage half brother, who is allegedly sharing a room with my son. The mother has not offered any explanation to childs grand parents who have helped raise him, or to the school or to me. We are all concerned for my childs safety who is staying with me whilst the joint investigation is being carried out. I obviously want to protect my son at all costs from any further harm and want to the following reasurrances by Social Services or if need be by going to court:
1. Son is kept at mine as permant residency..ex partner have's access without her boyfriend being there.
2. Son continues at same school as he has autism (Low on Spectrum) and they have been amazing regarding his development.
3. Son continue's to have grand parents as a major influence in his life as they have been there to support and nurture son since he was born.
If anyone has any advice in how I can go about implementing the above or have been in similar circumstances I would appreciate any feedback greatly. I have an appointment next week with family solictor but feel they'll tell me there's not much I can do & I don't think Social Services or Police will get anywhere either.
Everything depends on what Social Services put in their report.
If they feel there is a risk you are likely to be in a good position to get all you want. If they say there is no risk, things will probably go back to the way they were before, although perhaps things will be less friendly than they may have been. (If they were)
Simon
Hi and welcome
To be honest, if I was in your position right now, I would apply for a residence order very quickly and tell social services what you are doing. If the social services are happy for him to be with you, and they don't want him with your ex, by applying for residency you could be giving them a very easy option to support your residence application and also to support a contact order for supervised contact.
Have a read of yoji's guide to representing yourself at the top of the legal section to see what is involved, and I'll ask the cclc to pop by and comment.
Firstly,
thank you both for your supportive comments. I have a feeling that the situation is steering towards the other agencies involved sharing some of my concerns, which if so would be a relief. Ideally I hope the mother will have to make a decision on whats more important.... son or new partner, as I have clearly stated that I do not want to remove my son from her but I will not risk having my son in a house with her new partner after whats occured and ultimately the social services will have to make a decison and decide if my son who is vulnerable due to his autism is going to be at risk of further harm? Again I feel they share my concerns and I am taking legal advice next week as suggested regarding the full range of options to protect my son from further harm. Obviously if the social services supported my application(s) that would be a great help.
Hi Jim,
What a horrible situation, but you're doing the right thing!
Please let us know how things proceed. Just ask f you need any further support or advice!
Good luck and best wishes,
FM '70
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