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Help please.
Brief outline - always paid towards and always seen my son usually at weekends. Never missed a pick up and never missed a payment. Ex always been bitter as I left when son was 2.
Together for about 6 years and married for about a year but she dragged out divorce for about 3 years so i had to carry on paying bills all in all shes had about 250k
Recently i had a dispute with a business partner which resulted in me being taken to court. In the meantime i set up another company in a family members name so there was no trace to me and paid myself via an umbrella company. After 4 years i won the legal dispute (all details to this are irrelevant to CSA case)
I have been remarried for 6 years now and have 3 other children with my wife. She is nothing but loving to my son and she was nothing to do with why me and my ex split but my ex detests her and has never actually had any contact or dealings with her. My wife works for the company i set up in another family members name and she works hard taking a small wage. I have recently gone on the same payroll taking a wage.
Basically my ex is saying that i am diverting my income to my wife to avoid paying her when i am not. She thinks my income should be more just because it used to be a few years back. Basically my wife was doing some extra work to help out and it was only fair she got paid. The whole reason the new company was set up was to get the other dispute off my back and NOTHING to do with hiding earnings. Now i am being taken to court regarding it all and the bitter nasty ex thinks shes on to something!
Its quite difficult to go into details about all this on here but the fact is my wife and i live terribly after the other court battle and having no money due to funding that for 4 years. We live in a very cramped house and have my son every weekend so we need room for him too. We are desperate to move but cant afford to especially if my CSA money goes up anymore!
Is there anything i can do, should i get a solicitor for the hearing in January next year?
Thanks for explaining. Is it the CSA that say you owe your ex money or your wife? Have you always kept up your payments through the CSA based on what you were earning?
Thanks for taking the time to read my post. I pay my ex wife through the CSA and I contacted them as my ex wife demanded ridiculous amounts when we divorced per a court order. I always paid the court order amounts then when I had my daughter with my now wife I contacted the CSA and have always made payments to them - on time and based on my income. It has then gone down twice following the births of my other two children. It is only now my ex is demanding more money. She basically expects me to pay for all of my son's costs and she feels she does not need to contribute.
Hope that is clear. Thanks
Hi
Just to clarify, when you say you are being taken to court, is this a tribunal?
If she is appealing the decision, then you are starting from a position of being ahead. As long as you were paying your wife a fair wage for the work she was doing, then you have a good chance of having the appeal dismissed - take plenty of figures, jobs adverts for similar jobs etc along and you shouldn't have a problem. The tribunal will penalize if they think that someone is abusing the system, but if its all above board, they are quite reasonable.
Yer my wife gets a small wage but she has honestly worked for this and it was nothing to do with hiding any of my earnings. Ive always paid my ex and always want to contribute towards my son. My wife loves my son like her own and he is well looked after when he is with us by both my side of the family and even my wifes.
Makes me so angry that my ex constantly thinks she hard done by.
I have similar issues with son's mother. She refuses to accept that I can run a business and have no money, but the simple fact is that most of us now take home significantly less than we did three or four years ago...
Should I take all my wifes employment records along to court or will they write to her if they want to see them?
I agree - take everything as it's better to have it and not use it than to not have it and need it. If you look at a solicitor going to court, then often have a case on wheels for that very reason.
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