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Hi
Well its been a while and everything in Court had been going well.
Just had my interview with CAFCASS for the report on wether I should have contact or not and what kind.
During this the cafcass officer has said that I MUST produce a photo album of family.
Now my child is only 4yrs old, I have never seen him. I have no issues with him having this, however due to his age this would mean my ex wife having in her possession, and showing him
Firstly I do not want my ex wife having these in her possession, as I do not trust her, wouldnt want her having these by nature she is my ex and don't want her knowing that much about me, my family are not happy with releasing photos to her and if I did so without their permission I would be breaching their rights to privacy and DATA protection.
Equaally I believe she would just throw in the bin,
what can I do, I am not happy to comply with this, unless pics are kept at her solicitors or a contact centre and its recorded wether she attends to show my child these,
Hi There,
This seems like a really strange request, I get that they may want to show your child pictures of you but don't understand why the rest of the family.
I would try and find out who has ruled that this should happen.
GTTS
Since when did CAFCASS become such dictators? I have never heard so much rubbish as what comes from CAFCASS. They are quite frankly so useless at dealing with fathers it is a joke!
I think I would also be of the same opinion fella, I would not give up anything to my ex, just another thing she could plaster all over Facebook or to make rude and snide comments about.
Hi you are doing really well and seem to be getting closer to seeing your son. I tried once to ring cafcass on my sons behalf and they were not helpful. But I guess there busy !!
I would phone the cafcass office and voice your concerns, I would ask who was looking after the photos it could well just be the cafcass officer who will show your son and talk about the photos to see what reaction they get . I cant see them just handing them over !!
Thanks all, glad im not the only one who is not happy about this.
I did raise this with cafcass, saying that I would not have permission from my family members to release their photos and by doing so would be breaching their privacy and rights under data protection
that unless cafcass or a solicitor held the album and show the child, I see no benefit as the Courts would have no way to know if this was shown to the child or that it was even done in a positive manner.
I also asked that the mother be requested to send me pics via my mums address of my son
Cafcass wont advise any further about it, simply saying they have taken my views into account and that if they still recomend then I will have to take up at Court.
how ridiculous though, that it even need to go that far, and then knowing the Courts they will agree as they just go along with cafcass, and then I will be forced to appeal that part.
Can I ask,
If the judge orders say supervised contact (which it seems they will be as they have told mother to tell the child about me)
and orders this stupid album, if I then ay im going to appeal the album, could they refuse me the contact granted whilst I appeal?
I think you should do a few photos of you, meet them half way , your son dosent know who you are and by looking at photos he will beable to recognise you a little bit,which will be for your benefit as well. I hadnt seen my grandaughter for 18 months and she was just comfortable from the start , kids just seem to know .
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