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I have been in family court today to ask the court to get Cafcass to talk to my two children. When I arrived Cafcass was already in with the judge. When it was our turn to going with our counsel, the judge started shouting that I was only there cos I did not agree with last decision made in court by the other judge, he then went on to say to my ex's counsel to contact the aid commission to get my aid revoked cos they should not waste money on me. The reason I have been returning to court is because my ex has been physically and mentally violent to my children especially my daughter now aged 12. I am now scared for my children, you see I am deaf so if I have no legal aid I cannot represent my self as I won't be able to hear anything. It is in my file that was given to the court, so the judge must be aware of this. Cafcass will speak to my children, but I do not hold much with them, my daughter is frightened to say anything about it to her teachers so how will a visiting stranger to the school fare. I was a house husband looking after my children and do all the housework etc. for 9 years taking beatings and mental abuse, 7 of then sleeping on the settee as I was protecting my children by staying there. I left after she attacked me in front of my son, the look on his face will haunt me forever, I left so they would not witness anymore.
Hi there
I'm absolutely shocked at the judges behaviour and I really feel for your situation. If I were you I would consider going to see your local MP, they run whats called surgeries where their constituents can attend to ask for help when theres is nowhere else to turn.
Have the Social Services ever been involved? If you are fearful for your daughter and feel she is at risk then you can ask them to investigate. They often seem reluctant to become involved but if you insist your daughter is being subjected to physical and mental abuse they have a duty to look into it.
Good luck with everything and please do let us know how you get on 🙂
Sorry to hear the bad news! Can you see if you can raise a formal complaint regarding the judge and his actions?
- Samaritans – call 116 123
- Shout – text the word ‘Shout’ to 85258
