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My ex recently contacted CSA as she at the time felt she couldnt handle having any contact with me.
I spoke with her after recieving a call from CSA and we came up with an agreement we were both happy with which didnt involed the agency.
My question is, do I need to have any documentation regarding the amount we have agreed to in writting?
I'm getting reciptes but could she go to CSA and tell them im not paying the agreed amount?
CSA have closed the case as she has told them that we have come to a private family arranged agreement.
Thank you in advance.
Firstly, make any payments by standing order, and make sure you quote the reference "child maintenance" - that way you have proof you made the payments and what they were for. There's a link to the CMEC at the bottom of the forum - follow that and it will hopefully tell you what paperwork, if any, you need. If not post back here and we'll ask them to pop on here.
Standing order isn't possible as I get paid on different dates, cash is easier for both me and the mother. I am getting written, dated and signed reciptes from the mother...
As for the link, I clicked and I didn't get anywhere apart from the top of this page...
Buy a receipt book. Only a few quid.
You need a record of all payments made. Write the amount and date and get her to sign it.
I have had similar issues in the past and this was great advise. I now pay through work so always have a record.
I have to just say that if she disputes things and say you not been paying it will be up to you to prove you have.....if she refuses to sign you have no leg to stand on the the CSA bullies
Electronic transfer is the safest and only way to go mate.....my mate has been in similar situation and his ex refused to sign so he threatend to stop paying her....she just threatend him back saying he'd not see his daughter then! so he gave in and carried on paying her cash.
3yrs later he's contacted by the CSA demanding back pay for all that time.....he's been fighting now but ended up paying almost half his wages to the CSA bullies.
he's still fighting but has got his local MP involved
Hmm, the link took me to the correct place. Never mind, try this http://www.dwp.gov.uk/about-dwp/customer-delivery/child-maintenance/
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