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Hello everyone,
I have a huge problem, I will cut it short and give the bits I feel matter to get a response if anyone can help, thanks in advance.
My daughter lived with her nan (her mums mum) today I got a letter regarding a review meeting from an independent reviewing officer, I rang her only to find that my daughter is in foster care, she gave me the social workers name who is dealing with my daughter I said I want my daughter with me rather than in care. She told me to seek legal advice and speak to the social worker I rang to speak to the social worker but had to leave a message for her to contact me back.
I have heard so many bad things about SS taking kids as they get huge pay outs for re-homing kid, I can not afford a solicitor and I sure as [censored] do not want to loose my daughter to the system.
I read that if there is no order I should be able to just ask for my daughter back is this true?
If not what are my options?
Hi Shaun,
I think you need to wait to hear back from SS and see what they say, forster care is normally the last thing that SS want to use as it's disruptive to the children and there is always such an adjustment period of settling into a unfamiliar home.
try not to get too hung up on what you read online and the horror stories until you know what's what, as the only reports you tend to find on forums are the bad stories as these are the ones that need advice or people need to vent about, I always say that for every horror story you read there are 3-4 times the amount of good stories that didn't need to be written about on internet forums.
Keep us posted and if you need help or advice shout and we will get what we can for you.
GTTS
I agree with GTTS, wait and see what the social worker has to say.
Once you are armed with the facts then you can move forward. Were you in regular contact with your daughter? Were you aware of any problems?
I think you would be able to request custody through the court if they refuse you but it's not an area I'm too familiar with. Generally when there are child protection issues they have multidisciplinary meetings etc. I'm surprised as her father that you were not consulted, as I was under the impression that they like to place children with other family members before resorting to foster care...this is something you should discuss with the SW.
Thank you very much I have today spoke with the sw she was shocked to hear that i had not had any letters until the one dated 6th November she has assured me that she will arrange contact for me and assist me as they are about to start adoption proceedings which rather scares me.
I have written to the sw requesting all the paper work to do with my daughter via email so that I am able to try and get a better picture in the mean time I suppose its just a waiting game til I see my baby girl again :@(
Thank you both
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