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hi
my boyfriend is the most amazing dad he pays hes matance and has his child once a week and every other week end he would have him more but she wont allow it . she has always said she is completely fine with him taking him away and now she preganant ,hes asked to take him away and shes point blank refused hes in absoult bits he adore his child and she is now looking to make things very differcult how can we sort this out and make this fairer he must have rights?????
please help ......
Hi Potter & welcome
The first step your partner needs to consider is mediation to see if there is any agreement that can be reached - it may be worth him explaining to his ex that he will look at going to court if they can't reach an agreement, sometime that may be enough to prompt an agreement.
aswell the promblem is nothing is set in stone so hes really neruos that she will jus change her mind as and wen it suits her wich she is partical to doing he feels complete helpless like she holds all the cards ....
you know what i mean
On the basis that it could end up in court, it's worth reading yoji's guide to representing yourself at the top of the legal section - it gives a good idea of where it could go, and what to expect.
Hi potter,
Can i just ask with regards to this holiday, when are you thinking about going abroad?
Yes she's said she before she dosent mine us taking him away and now she's taken it all back :/ ....
Oh sorry I didn't read that all ... In late sept he hasn't started school yet so that's not an issue on that front ...
Hi potter,
Based on you wanting to go in September you need to take this to Court as soon as possible. If she is being obstructive now, its highly likely she will drag this out passed the holiday date you are planning, and essentially void your holiday for this year.
Don't worry with regards to Mediation. Court will raise this, but you will need to state that, owed to cost and Mums refusal to allow you to take the child away, Mediation will only take away i) money which could be spent on the childs holiday place, holiday clothes etc and ii) will be unlikely to have an agreement reached in 4months.
If the Court asks you to consider it, and won't seem to budge. Its always worth coming half way and saying that you are prepared to attend X sessions, or sessions up until a review date for end June/early July. In this way, if Mediation is not making headway, you will still have plenty of time at the review to request a bench (Final Hearing). And equally, if Mediation has proved productive, the agreement can be put into a Contact Order.
^ That is hand on heart the best way to broach this.
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