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My friend has a daughter from someone he has slept with, he isnt and never has been in a relationship with her but he has tried to do everything right. He didnt find out for a while and when he did he worked all hours to try and provide for them.. However she turned this around into him not taking any notice of her while she was pregnant. He wasnt at the birth and hasnt been put on the birth ceritificate. And she is been very difficult. How can he get access to his daughter, as far as he knows he is the only possible father.
Any advice of help would be greatly appreciated. This has affected him financially and mentally and I really would like to help him help himself
Hi and welcome to the forum.
When you say he is trying to provide for them, is he paying maintenance, or is it just a private arrangement to pay? Is there any chance the mother would be prepared to attend mediation, as ideally this should be attempted (assuming they can't come to an amicable arrangement) before contemplating any further action.
Hi LMB10,
Yes as actd has said, it may be worth noting that Mediation or attempting to open a dialogue would be the best first choice.
How sure can he be that he is the Father?
If he is serious about Contact he will need to raise a C1 form for the Responsibility and simulataneously a C100 (to be submitted together) to ensure that he is given PR and also to start any form of Contact (legally) should dialogue or Mediation not bear fruit.
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