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Hi
I often here separated parents say one week they have the children four days, and three with the other parent and vice versa the other week, please can you explain how this works.
Could be a number of ways, depending on the parents & kids commitments and what works best for the families. Each way has pros and cons. Also can depend on your children - some kids dont do well with it, other do. Handovers, hosility etc can all factor in.
Option 1 (over 2 weeks)
Mon & Tues - Parent A
Wed & Thurs - Parent B
Fri - Tues - Parent A
Wed - Sun - Parent B
each parent has 7 nights over fortnight, but weekdays are fixed (so kids & friends always know where they are) with weekends alternating.
Option 2 (over 2 weeks)
Mon, Wed, and then Fri & Sat - Parent A
Tues, Thurs & Sun - Parent B
Then reverse the following week. Again each parent has 7 nights over the fortnight, but each get some weekend time each week, and involvement in all activites. i.e if football / dancing etc is on a Wed you each get to be involved in it
Option 3 - as above, but have Mon & Tues, then Wed & THurs.
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