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Hi
Me and my ex have been for the last 3 years and somehow managed to stay amicably and share our child arrangements without any formal agreement.
I have been covering almost ALL weekends all these years ( Fri - Sun ) except 4/5 times a year . Also when possible visit during the week or keep overnight. So in total i had 1/3 of the year
But this was possible due to the fact me been living in close proximity to my Ex wife's house since and it was my decision so I can spend more time with my child. But every weekend is becoming harder, especially since my ex not flexible to cover weekends. I'm also starting a new business so finding it hard with this schedule not to mention missing my social life for the last few years , etc but my Ex doesn't want to change this and threatening to go to court if i dont commit to every weekend except 3 times a year.
So my question is what is my right - Can the court/mediator order me to have more days or force me to stick with this current every-weekend schedule? or will they consider me asking for every other weekend?
Thanks
hi, with court and child arrangements they can not make you spend time with child if your not available or if you don't want to. a standard arrangements court like to issue is you have kids every other weekend, 2 weeks in summer holidays (half of all holidays if you are available and request that).
@bill337 is this link correct? I cant access it and throws error saying page not found
hi, oh I see you tried clicking on the dads zoom counselling link? I see that it is not working. I am looking into this and will get it sorted out ASAP....@bill337 is this link correct? I cant access it and throws error saying page not found
@satheeshv7 hi, have updated my signature with working link. please be mindful they are not free of charge.
for the last few years , etc but my Ex doesn't want to change this and threatening to go to court if i dont commit to every weekend except 3 times a year.
Hmmm sounds like coercive control which can be considered domestic abuse. This might give you the right to apply for CAO without undergoing mediation.
I echo Bill's post above.
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