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:boohoo: i havent paid child support for nearly 5 years and havent seen my daughter either. my current partner and i keep having constant arguments about this which is causing friction in our relationship with our son. I try to talk about it but feel that she doesnt want to listen as we keep bickering!!! I want to get in touch with my EX to sort it out with her individually but i dont think this would work somewhat??? can anyone help
Hi and welcome Christopher 🙂
...I'm just a little confused what it is you are asking help with.
I'm sorry to hear that you and your current partner arn't getting on, is this because you want to get in touch with you ex and reconnect with your daughter? You really need to have your partner on side if you're serious about reconnecting... Perhaps she needs lots of reassurance that things arnt going to change.
Is there a reason why you havent paid child support for 5yrs, and havent had any contact with your daughter?
Do you know the whereabouts of your ex? I think rather than turn up on the doorstep, it might be advisable to write her a letter, you could include a contact telephone number and then leave the ball in her court. Ask that she contact you so that you can arrange to meet and talk things through. She might not want to see you, so you could start by sending cards at christmas and birthdays, put some money in....it will take time, but if you're consistent she might come round. On the other hand, she might make contact and be prepared to meet and sort things out....theres no way of knowing until you give it a go!
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