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I'M 35 years of age have been divorced from my ex wife for three years now,I have regular contact with my children and pay maintenance regulary through the csa. However my ex wife is now seriously threatning that I have no contact with my children as I am a supposedly selfish father who always spends my money on myself before my children ( this is what she tells my 9yearold daughter and 7year old son ). I am on a low income job and only bring home after all taxes etc £788 a month this doesnt even cover all my living bills I have to ask my partner to help me out financially. What money I do have I do give to the children for extra clothes etc I even buy their school uniforms when I can afford to, all this on top of my maintenance payments. Where do I stand if she refuses total access to my children,can I challange this? I dont want to stop paying for my kids as their are my responsibility and therefore as such i gladly pay. However if i am paying and my ex wife is threatening no contact where do I stand what rights do I have.
Any help and advice would be most appreciated thank you
Hi Taff13,
I moved your post over to here - because the Legal Section is the best place for it.
I am sorry to hear that your ex partner is threatening to stop your kids from seeing you. I will ask the Coram Children's Legal Centre to pop by and offer you some advice regarding access.
Gooner
thank you all so very much for the help ,ive a lot of reading to do lol .Taff i hope you get sorted to mate .
bunch
Hi Taff
Have a look at the CSA calculator, but from what you have said, you are taking home about £182 per week. On this basis, you pay £5 per week plus 35% of you income above £100, so a total of £33.70 per week, or £146 per month. This is all you need to pay, any extra for clothes etc is up to you. If you are paying directly - do it through a bank and make sure it says "child maintenance", or if you really must pay her directly, get a receipt from her each time specifying what it's for.
As for contact - this is not linked at all to maintenance and she has no right to prevent contact unless there are welfare issues. Take a look at yoji's "guide to representing yourself" at the top of the legal eagle section - there is a fee of £200 but I think it is possible to get this reduced. You may also be eligible for legal aid, but this is going to disappear, and can take quite some time to come through.
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