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hi so heres my story i had just got with my now ex girlfriend around the middle of september, she told me she couldnt have kids, about a month later she said her breasts hurt and she was a week late, we did 2 home tests which came out positive, we were both happy wasnt the ideal situation as we had only been together a month but we went with it.
now shes around 7 weeks pregnant and shes saying she wants me out her life she doesnt want to see me and im not going to see the kid, i bit my lip as i know this is proberly hormones, but it just keeps getting worse shes now saying the kid might not be mine, im not seeing the baby when its born my name isnt going on the birth certificate, i have no rights to the kid, she keeps messaging me saying shes going to go out and get drunk keeps saying shes going to get rid of the baby, i have tried to be the best guy i can be i never bite back i always ask her how i can help, i buy her fruit and vitamins say i will buy her pregnancy bras and things if she came shopping with me i read up about it and how i can help but it isnt good enough for her shes now saying if i dont leave her alone and stay out her life shes going to get help and advise to keep me out her life.
what rights do i have as a father when the child is born i dont want to drag it threw court as its not whats best for the child but i dont think i have a choice :(, i want custody of the child, as the way she is acting at the minute i dont know if she will be able to look after my child,
i know i shouldnt of had a kid so soon and i should of thought about it but like i said she didnt think she could have kids ( or so she told me ) but as shes keeping it i want to stand up and do whats right for my child,
can anybody offer any advice and how i go about getting custody of my child? my heads in bits
Hi there and welcome 🙂
At the moment and until the baby is born, you dont have any rights, and if she is threatening to get advice about it, it would be advisable for you to respect her wishes otherwise you might have to answer to charges of harrassment.
You are right to give some consideration to the fact that she is hormonal...heightened emotions and abnormal behaviour can be a part of early pregnancy and as she's still only at 7wks, its early days yet. Give her the space shes asking for and she may choose to contact you when things have settled down.
As far as custody is concerned there would have to be some really serious abuse/neglect of the child before the child services got involved so unless thats the case, I cant see it being a realistic option for you.
However, even if she leaves you off the birth certificate you can apply for Parental Responsibility through the court once the baby hass been born and you could also apply for a contact order at the same time, so all is not lost. 🙂
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