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Hi please can anyone help me , i have seperated from my wife and i am going to start divorce proceedings,
i found out iwasnt on my sons birth certificate although i did have a dna rtest done back in Feb 2012 as she kept torturing me that i wasnt his dad to my relief am his dad , she has had a non molestation order put on me and both my parents for all sorts of lies i am now going to trial to fight this is oct but they wont let me have any contact with my son its been 3 weeks and it is killing me now im putting on a brave face for everyone around me but its eating away at me and im now thinking i dont want to be alive as the pain is to much to take i dont know what to do she has had me arrested over 40times for domestic violence somehting i as never convicted of she has made all these lies about me and the police and the courts re helping her , so please can anyone help or advise me i have solictors but i just somone who has personal experience with this as i cant see a way out , i love my son more then life itself and for being a loving supporting dad i am being punished for it theres dads who couldnt give a toss about there kids and the mums beg for them to take a role in there kids lives but pleading to anyone out there to help me i would sell my soul to the devil if it meant i could just hold my son ..... dont know where else to turn
So sorry to hear things are so tough for you right now. I can't imaging how tough it is, but want to encourage you to hang on in there. You're not alone, you'll find losts of older posts on this Forum from Dad's who have had it really hard too. I'd encourage you to read them. Have you thought about getting some counselling right now to help support you with where you are at? You're so important to your son & being strong for him is going to be really important. What advice has your solicitor given you? How long will it be until you get to see your son? Please keep us updated & offload here as much as is helpful.
Hi thanks for your words of support , didnt think of counselling , i cant see him until my trial oct 18th but she has the non molestation order on me until jan 2013 i know for a fact i cant wait that long just dont know what to do or say shes not even a person i can reason with while shes got legal aid 2 law firms working for her and a barrister its financially crippling me , shes done all this to punish me cuz my son is my world i get this days where i hope i go to bed and never wake up cuz i cant bare the thought of not seeing him and when i do im afraid he wont remember me hes 2 sept 6th and i wont even be able to see him on his birthday sorry to ramble on
Hi there, it sounds like you are really going thru the mill. I dont have legal expertise like some other guys on here but I can tell you it does get easier with time. Try finding out if there is a way to get on the birth certificate, this will give you parental responsibility which is a strong influence on the courts and others here can advise you about this. In my opinion the best thing to do is think positive and do all you can to demonstrate through your solicitor you are a commited parent, when the decisions are made about contact with your son it will be what you can offer now and in the future that is important. Your conflict with your ex will be secondary. You really have to start to work on a new timescale. This wont be resolved quickly but it will happen given time. You will not have to wait until the non molestaition order has expired to see your son regularly. Hope someone can advise you and jf your solicitor ios not giving you the answers you want, make sure you tell them.
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