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My ex and i separated nearly 4 years ago, i have been with my current partner for just over 3 years and have two kids together plus her two from previous. likewise i have two girls from previous with the ex.
Since me and my partner being together my ex has always interfered in our life, involving social services only to be condemned for her trumped up allegations, restriciting access, and generally sticking her nose in at any given moment.
The divorce is imminent and a signed consent order now in place, regards mantenance amongst others things. She has now looked to involve the CSA albeit the consent order stands for the next 12 months but this does not stop her and causes me further hassle for having to deal with it.
How do i get her to just keep her nose out and stop harrassing me at any given moment????
My girls stay every other weekend and it started off great, then one day they chnaged towards me and my partner but we managed to get through it. Until recently, my eldest acts quiet and funny although she says nothing is wrong and just this past weekend gone home and i have her mother tellling me that she was in tears as i pressure her and given her mother a story which in turn she has goes at me about.
My kds are affected because of their mothers issues, which i and anyone else only sees as jealousy and resentment, she left, nothing other than we drifted apart yet she has always stuck her nose in and it causes massive friction between me and my partner.
I need my ex to stop, she acts against everything that is reasonable and amicable, goes back on arrangemetns and then accuses me of being the one who is interfering, she has issues, what, i dont know.
Does anyone have any ideas, i have thought about harassment order, etc but its still going to keep on, she just cant seem to let go of what her problem is, even for the sake of the kids, she uses them to threaten and cause trouble.
Would be very much interested in hearing from anyone about this.
Cheers for reading.
emeyetee
Hi and welcome
I think anything you do to stop your ex trying to interfere is potentially hung to fail as you need to communicate over contact, plus any action you take will tell your ex that she is successfully having an effect on you. I would say that you need to manage her interference as much as possible, so block emails, texts and calls from your normal addresses and create a new email or get a pay as you go phone especially for the purpose and check these only when you want to - effectively you are then taking back some of the control of communication. It's a slow process, but it is rewarding.
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