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I thought that I had secured the home but today came home to a mess as my ex had gained entry whilst I was out and made a real mess and gone through my court paperwork.
She also sent me a threatening mail saying that I had tried to deny her access and would get the police to gain entry in future.
Im really annoyed as I have no privacy and she has removed items from the home in the past.
Can she really just enter at will and rifle my belongings?
What can I do?
Ive let my solicitor know
Regards,
Dave
If she has left the martial home can you not change the locks and inform her and state that you arent deigning her access but she can come to the property if she makes prior arrangements to come a a time conveinent for both parties?
There seems to be conflicting advice in that your supposed to give her a key and that she has rights of access and occupation.
It just stinks she can plan and come in when Im not around as she has been through all my documents for court.
I also caught her sitting outside the house last month so she obviously drives past waiting for me not to be in.
If I had done this she would have an injunction against me.
The reasonable way would be to arrange access wouldnt it.
Regards,
Dave
I agree that it sounds conflicting - I would certainly expect that your solicitor would complain to the court that your ex has gone through documents that are confidential to you and your solicitor, and could therefore jeopardise your position.
I would keep your documents somewhere else (work?) and possibly look at getting a PO Box so she can't get at your mail.
Hi Dave
You are entitled to change the locks and strictly speaking you should give her a key to stop her access to the property. However, she could break in, legally ,if she wanted to as we have talked about before.
Now that she has been through your private papers (I suspect she is looking for financial information) I would change the locks, tell your Solicitor and stat that this is why you have changed the locks. However, should she require access to the property she can make an appointment to go when you are there. I would also mention that you have seen her hanging round the property and that you are considering further legal action, i.e. harassment which is reported to the police! And make sure your Solicitor reports this action to the Court also.
As actd also says, couldn't you keep your papers elsewhere now as well as take the above action.
I have just noticed that she has stripped the walls of pictures and taken the childrens keep sake boxes.
Thats the locks done now....Im out tomorrow so have put s note on the windows front and back.
Says Im not denying access just that an appointment should be made via her solicitor.
Im hoping its enough to deter police or locksmith from forcing entry.
Regards,
Dave
🙂 He knows already and is writing a letter of complaint to her solicitor tomorrow for rifling my belongings.
I put signs in the windows telling that access is not being denied but to go via her solicitor.
Regards,
Dave
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