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It's been absolutely ages since I posted, the reason why is I've been enjoying life & being Dad. In 2017 I went through the worst year of my life through the court system for child access. I spent Christmas that year drowning my sorrows in a whiskey glass as I wasn't allowed to see my son.
I kept contemplating suicide that Christmas. 4 years on & I've just take my son for a once in a lifetime trip to Lapland & it was a tears of pure joy & happiness & he has gone mum's for one day & he is back with me tomorrow. Everything worked out in the end. It took time & I had to fight for my life just to be part of my sons life buy I got everything I dreamed of & more.
Stay positive & keep up the fight & follow yours dreams, it might not be the Christmas you want this year but If you fight hard enough there will be ones that you dream of to follow. Merry Christmas MrB
It's been absolutely ages since I posted, the reason why is I've been enjoying life & being Dad. In 2017 I went through the worst year of my life through the court system for child access. I spent Christmas that year drowning my sorrows in a whiskey glass as I wasn't allowed to see my son.
I kept contemplating suicide that Christmas. 4 years on & I've just take my son for a once in a lifetime trip to Lapland & it was a tears of pure joy & happiness & he has gone mum's for one day & he is back with me tomorrow. Everything worked out in the end. It took time & I had to fight for my life just to be part of my sons life buy I got everything I dreamed of & more.
Stay positive & keep up the fight & follow yours dreams, it might not be the Christmas you want this year but If you fight hard enough there will be ones that you dream of to follow. Merry Christmas MrB
This is my child’s very first Christmas and the toxic ex won’t let me see my child. She also took away my first Father’s day. The stress has caught up with me at this point.
@dadlad how are you doing? Have you considered going to your GP to see if you can get counselling?
@dadlad how are you doing? Have you considered going to your GP to see if you can get counselling?
I’ve been seeing a therapist for a few weeks but it’s not helped completely. The pain and stress of not seeing your child and missing the first Christmas etc definitely catches up with you.
@dadlad yes, this is always going to be one of the hardest times of the year, I'd suggest you keep up with the counselling as it's a slow process and it's not easy, but hopefully there will be small improvements in how you feel, and having contact, and that's what you need to concentrate on.
@dadlad Apologies I'm not very active on here these days. I know to well that this Christmas must of been horrendous. The mental impact over special occasions can be very damaging.
I will never forget the Christmas I lost I hit rock bottom & the only way I got through it was at the bottom of a whiskey bottle, terrible idea as drink only made it 10x worst but I just wanting the time to pass until I went back to work. If you stay strong & work hard & jump through the hoops that you have to you will reap the rewards in the long run.
The time you lost you won't get back but time heals & in my personal experience everything worked out in the end. I even have a stable co-parent relationship that I thought was impossible. It took 3 years to get that but I'm happier then ever with my relationship with my child & once I'd been broken as a man I come back stronger then ever.
I hope it workout for you. Good luck.
Mr B
I'm 3years not seeing trying to stay positve. At the end my door will be open always and pick up the pieces when x lets them down!!
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