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I have two kids ages ten daughter and a son aged 8.5. Divorced many years now. I am a doctor. I live ten min from my ex. I have kids once a week and take to school following morning as well every other weekend Friday to Monday morning when I take them to school as well. It's a flexible arrangement and often over the years have kept kids often much more than what I've mentioned. I usually keep kids for atleast half of all the holidays. I pay for kids maintenance as well as everything else to do with private schooling. Uniforms. Lunches. Etc etc. So what's my question. Ex may possibly move to 100 miles away to start her career as a lawyer. Not a permanent post. A temp training job for a year. My kids extremely attached to me. They have everything they need here at my house. Their own bedrooms. Etc. so if ex decides to up root them and leave other family here cousins and friends how should I go about best asking for joint custody and preventing that move. I am a very hands on father. Despite my job I try to be there for kids as much as possible.
Do I go to caffcass or wait for courts to ask for that ?
I'll move this to the legal section as it's more suitable there.
I'm not sure that joint custody will resolve anything - it sounds more like you'd need to go for residence. Generally, the courts don't prevent moving children within the UK unless the reason is to actively prevent contact, and it sounds as though your ex has a genuine reason for moving. Thing is, when she has finished her training, where is she going to move next to get a permanent job - this could very likely involve moving your children yet again. Of course, the better solution would be to persuade your ex to leave the children with you for the year while she trains, and then move them once she has a permanent position - by which time they will be settled with your, so you could apply for a residence order then if necessary with a very high chance of success.
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