[Solved] LIES WRITTEN how do i get her medical records

Try not to worry.... when you go to court, because of all the issues, I should think the judge will ask for reports. You already have the child with you and I would think that in the first instance an interim Residency Order will be made so that you can continue to care for the child until you go back to court for the final hearings. This process will probably take some months and the longer you have custody the more likely it is that the courts will leave the child with you.

If Social Workers have been involved previously, perhaps you should call them and discuss your concerns. Speak to your solicitor if you have one and ask them to talk you through the first hearing and what to expect. If you have told them about the mothers history, they will know to bring this up in court. If you dont have a solicitor you will be given the opportunity to speak to the judge and bring the issue out in the open.

Thank you so much,my son was so worried that they would give baby back to mum,we dont know the extent of her illness only that she couldnt be left alone,That she was admitted 3 times for overdoses,crashed while drunk and was convicted.And that she has been violent to my son.although there is only my word for this.Due i think to her mental state she did nothing for baby wasnt bounded at all.The trouble i feel on reading all the dads cases on here is sometimes very strange decisions are made.You have been a confort to us,as our fingers are worn out trying to get answers on the net.The baby has had a visit from our health visitor at home.We have been acused of living in squalor,so i wondered if this is why we had a suprise visit from her?I now one thing as we go thro this court case i will afterwards be trying to help anyone else who needs it

You're right there are some strange decisions made and there are many sad stories of Dads denied contact with their children. I too am a mother supporting my son, thats what brought me here too! 🙂 My son has custody of his little boy and similar to your sons case, he had his son because the mother couldnt cope but then she put in for Residency because she wanted him back. The judge was fantastic and ordered Police, CAFCASS and Social Services reports and ordered drug and alcohol tests for both my son and the mother, my son passed the test but she failed and she was the one making the accusations of drug abuse. My son was granted interim Residency and later on he was awarded full Residency. We are still having problems with the mother but thats not unusual. At least my grandson is safe and happy! 🙂

Nobody can second guess what a judge might do but as long as you put all the facts to the court and are calm and reasonable then you have a fighting chance of keeping the child with you. Never bad mouth the mother to the authorities, just give them the facts and let them form their own opinions. There is lots of good information on here, have a read of the sticky at the top of the Legal Eagle section called "How to represent yourself in court" ....Even if your son has a solicitor it has useful information about the court process.

Only the father and his legal team will be allowed into the courtroom, grandparents are banished to the waiting room....one of the hardest "waits" of my life!

My son and grandson lived with me at the start of the custody case and I scrubbed my house from top to bottom before the visits from CAFCASS and Social Services, they inspected everywhere and even looked in the fridge!

Good luck 🙂

agree totally with NJ - if you have your son with you, and are providing properly for his welfare, then the longer he is with you, the less likely the court are to move him back with his mother, and that is true even if she was a model mother - as she isn't, then I really wouldn't worry, and the surprise visit by the health worker works in your favour as it's added evidence that the ex is trying anything and is prepared to lie.

could you explain if i have to fill out a CIA form(I found it on line) as well as replying to the one i have been sent from my ex.The legal aid wont be thro in time as i only have a week to reply to the order.So i will need as much help as i can.Can i still add to this statement when i go to court?

You dont need to respond to the C1a at this point and you will be given an opportunity to respond in court. I have responded to your other post.

Thank you for all your help,do they check our bedrooms when they come round?not that it matters'we were all set to do the garden as its messy and its snowing!I like you did i will be cleaning from top to bottom.How long from the first meeting do they come out?Iworry about everything lol.

Hi there

I can only speak from my own experience, but they checked everywhere, and they were keen to see where my grandson slept. They didnt poke around in cupboards or anything but they did have a look in the fridge and when they checked my grandsons mothers house they checked in her oven and microwave and in the kids bedrooms as they mentioned it in their report. I seem to remember she looked in the back garden but not 100% sure about that.

We have an open staircase and the handrail on one side was off so she told us for safety to get that repaired but that was the only thing. My grandson was 4 at the time, as you have a 1 yr old baby I would think they will expect to see things like baby gates and an awareness that the babys safety is catered for.

They wont be looking for a palace, just as long its a clean, tidy and safe home environment for the baby. Good luck 🙂

years ago, just after my case had been sorted, the cafcass officer dealing with the case told me that when she had been to visit my ex at her house, as soon as she got home, she changed out of the clothes she'd been wearing, put them in the wash and had a shower. That's the sort of thing that you don't want a cafcass officer to have to do 😀