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hey there all,
i stumbled across this forum today and well first of all would like to thank the people who seem to have the answers to alot of the issues posted , its been a good read and gained alot of information.
where do i start ....
Im, 27 currently a serving member of the Royal Air Force, (deployed)
i was with my ex for just over 4 years and we had our son, at 6 months old she kicked me out and wanted it to be just the 2 of them and at first it was going fine, regular access, maintenance agreed between the 2 of us, then i joined the Royal Air Force,
I could only see my son once a month while on basic training and maybe a little more once i had got to my trade training. i have always paid my due and always offered to pay for more, but upon meet a new partner my ex stopped all access, and took me to the CSA (Not had the best time with them, and we all feel like they should wear masks) my payments are on time and sorted each month. but still no access, in the last 2 years i have seen my son 3 times, im getting now where and im now finding its taking its toll on me, i currently dont know where they are living or have contact over then via a txt message as if i try call i get no answer,
please can someone point me in a direction that doesnt feel like my head is just hitting the wall,
thanks guys sorry to put my problem out there for everyone
To begin with you should consider completing a C4 - available at http://.thecustodyminefield.com%2FCourtForms%2FC4.pdf&ei=yUJUUNv1H-rO0QXc4YCYCQ&usg=AFQjCNFOVjIO3Hky6B_KJ7Rjo36g170LfQ - this is a 'Disclosure of Whereabouts' request which will/can provide you with an address for your son/ex. I'm no expert on this but I believe it can be submitted to your local family court and they will make efforts to contact her through the details held by CSA etc. Further to this you can try to search the electoral register at www.192.com if you wish to avoid court fees.
Either way, what are you trying to achieve here? I'm new on this forum but believe that someone will be able to help further if you perhaps provide more details. Are you seeking to re-establish contact with your son? If you do not have a solicitor instructed then the Coram Children's Legal Centre - www.childrenslegalcentre.com - can provide free legal advice via webchat/telephone and they have proven invaluable to me.
Isdad has most things covered above - I'd forget 192.com as it generally does require that you have some idea of where they are in the first place and it does cost, plus knowing where they are by itself isn't going to help, you need to be going for defined contact and if mediation doesn't work, then you are looking at a contact order - take a look at yoji's guide to representing yourself at the top of the legal eagle section as a starting point.
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