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i've lost my parental rights to two of my kids due to my ex wife playing around and causing me trouble with lies to make me walk away.
i fought through courts for my right to have contact with my children but was confronted by accusations and lies.
i was accused of everything from threatening to beat them up to trying to get my own children to touch me up.
this left me defeated and low to say the least and after a couple of years my solicitor advised me to walk away and let them come find me when they where old enough.
jan 12th this year i lost my parental rights to the children and they got to change there names to which i tried to fight my own corner for the parental rights as it was the only contact i had with my two children to see how they where growing up through school reports and doctors reports.
i currently live with my fiancee and three children and csa take £92 a week off me for the pleasure of working a full week and only bringing home around £600 a month home.
i also have a child to an ex to which recently im having him for four days and nights at our home so there is four children running around under our roof.
csa say we can survive on £136 a week and i can tell you i carn't my rent alone is £550 and im at the end of my tether on what to do as people who don't work are better off than we are as far as new things for my children or holidays just don't exist.
please can anyone tell me if there is anything i can do to help my situation as im ready to quit work and become a [censored] who does not work but can afford new cloths and holidays like everyone else.
thanks.
Do you have any arrears with the CSA, otherwise, for 2 children, you should be paying 20% of your takehome, which is 120 per month, or 30 per week. If you are in arrears, then unfortunately, the CSA seem to be quite fierce in getting the arrears paid, and they can take up to (I believe) 40% of your takehome pay until the arrears are cleared.
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