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Had mediation last week which resulted in no progress whatso ever. She dodges questions or doesnt answer them.
The mediators have congratulated us on our perseverance which is a joke as its got no where at all due to her.
She says onr thing and does another............
Have you found mediation to be a waste of time............... :boohoo:
Im so annoyed....
Dave
Ive heard mixed opinions Dave.....it works really well for some and is a waste of time for others...It has to be worked at and both parties need to be prepared to make compromises I think. The expertise of the mediator plays a part too.
Hi Dave, I’m presuming this was your first one and you will be having some more sessions?
Yes mediation worked for us, my son was given more or less what he asked for, for contact and this was made into a court order which was brilliant. From memory the first session didn’t really amount to much it took till the third to start seeing some progress, the mediator was very good and fair, dont loose hope yet
Hi AK57,
This was our second.
My ex didnt answer the points carried from the first and it was deemed that our positions were so far apart we have to let the court process take place and no further mediation was scheduled.
All very strange for me as I went in with points for discussion and agreed to further points but she seems to be able to go in and give vague assertions and not stick to them.
Im wondering if I can asked for an FM1 but not sure as mediation was left open ended just no further appointments scheduled.
Regards,
Dave
, Hi
Yes I would ask for the Fm1 form to be completed otherwise the court will just ask you to attend mediation and the mother will still be the same and this could delay things again. You will have to pay for the Fm1 if you didnt receive legal aid
Hi there,
I had both sides of the coin with mediation, the first batch of sessions were a waste of time, my ex wouldn't budge on anything, she gave silly offers in reply to what I had asked for offering less than half of what I had asked for either financially or contact and the mediator was useless, didn't try to premote any sort of compromise.
the 2nd was better the mediator was much better and tried her hardest to gain an agreement, she questioned my ex when she wouldn't agree to reasonable requests and we managed to gain a good level of agreement...........however my ex didn't stick to it so we ended up back in court.
mediation does work for many though.
I thought the mediators would press for the logic of her decisions so she would have to explain them but they told me that they were not interegators??
I have requested an FM1 now and am waiting a response.
If both are willing to work together then I can see how its a great idea but my ex was just paying lip service I think.
Dave
exactly, both parties have to go in with an open mind or there is no chance of it working.
GTTS
Ive recieved the following from mediation regards the FM1. What do you reckon I should do?
"We are able to issue form FM1 (if this is required) on the basis of mediation breaking down in regards to children matters, but can note that finances are still open for discussion in the future.
If you feel that mediation is just not needed at the moment, we do not need to break mediation down or issue form FM1, but instead can close your file for the time being on the bsais that mediation is currently not required. "
Regards,
Dave
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