[Solved] Medical record unfold the truth at court !

Hi, I can understand why you with held the info,(but not a good idea) but now its come out you will have to hold your hand up and explain why you did. So I would have it written down why you lied and how sorry you are that you did, I would ask the question if your parents can be there to supervise visits, but this does put a lot of strain on them as well. How about a contact centre, I think you are going to have to build up the trust with everyone, and show willing to do so
Are you having help with your anger issues and self harming ?

Hi info and welcome 🙂

How long ago did these issues of anger/suicide/self harm happen, is it in the past, did you get help at the time, or is it ongoing?

If it was a long time ago and you received treatment, then the impact wont be so bad...you can just be truthful and tell them you were frightened of the consequences of them knowing about it and apologise.

Ak57 is right, you can ask about supervised contact with your parents but also tell them that as long as you can see your daughter you would agree to anything that the court thought appropriate. It might be worth offering to attend anger management or parenting courses if this would satisfy the court. Just be open to whatever they ask of you and you should be ok. Remember, the courts really do want whats best for the child, and they also think that means having both parents in a childs life.

Good luck with everything 🙂

thanks ak57 and Nannyjane for your replies

suical attempt was last year but i never attended any followup appointments. my gp refered me to anger management but again i didnt attended that one as wel.

...my concern is not what the court will say but what my ex may haul up

...I've had a look back at your previous posts, and your history of domestic violence towards your present wife. The lack of interest you have shown in addressing any of these issues by not attending any of the appointments that your GP set up for you, does not go in your favour.

To be completely honest, if I were your ex I would be asking for supervised contact at a contact centre for the forseeable future, and if I were the judge I would be of a mind to instruct you to attend anger management and parenting classes before allowing any further contact.

The court is there purely to protect the child from any perceived risk, and thats why these risk assessments are done and backgrounds are checked. The judge hasn't asked for these reports just to ignore them, they are an important part of the process and they will be taken into account. If you go into court expecting the worse anything else is a bonus.

I agree completely with what nannyjane has said above - the court are not going to look kindly to a perceived lack of willingness to seek any form of help when you have been advised to do so, and in my case, where my ex was the one with the problem and refusing to acknowledge it, I went for supervised contact at a contact centre and was granted it without a second thought by the court. They were not at all sympathetic to her arguments as she had alienated herself with the court (including a couple of very specific warnings to her by the court) so there was no reason for them to take anything she said as being factual.

the suicide is not so bad as it was prob due to depression? did you have treatment for the depression? the anger bit is a worry has it been suggested there was any domestic violence if so your in very deep water and have a long fight for unsupervised as i got same sort of drama. please find out about what the courses are all about BEFORE you sign to say you will do and complete them. good luck but do all your research.