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I have 1child called Katie aged 2 my ex partner ,we separated before the birth but I made sure I was there and never left her side, were never married. I was left because she says she did not love me no more and seems like she had postnatal depression as quite a few months later she wanted me back by this time I started seeing another girl. All through our relationship I feel her family made it difficult. Then she stopped me from seeing my girl , so I asked her can we go to family mediation she never did before long I need a solicitor after lots of letter going back and forwards we sorted set days. The other day she called me and said we need to talk, then she told me that she had been to a solicitor to cut my hours and not sure why now I have to wait for the new letter that is coming in two weeks. I used to have my girl every other weekend as I work full time so I used to pick her up on the Friday night and take home on Sunday night, the weekend I don’t have her I have her for 3 hours on a Wednesday
I have always paid maintenance through the CSA,initially started be myself & not my ex so I could at least try to have some control over it (as ex is on the benifit cash-go-round & is far better off than me.
I am in a constant "fight" with my ex over time I spend with my child
I have never seen my child on christmas day for no more then about 2 hours with her mum being there (my time always has to be day after boxing day),my time at birthdays in the morning or the next day the list is exhausting.
I have tried to stay away from the court arena as ex would get legal aid & would knowingly drag things out if she thought it would cost me money,but any attempts to talk rationally result i her going off on one as she really believes that she is doing nothing wrong.
All I want is to spend good quality time & have good,fun times with my children however my ex constantly picks & drops any arrangements that have been made.
What do I do?
Thanks
Hi again Rob
I'm sorry that your ex is cutting the amount of time you spend with Katie. As we all know, using children as pawns when a relationship breaks down harms the children the most - they always suffer. Sadly, you are not alone and your ex should really be putting the needs of your daughter ahead of her own. If she is not going to co-operate and go to mediation with you, then you may have to resort to court action.
I will pass on your post to our legal team for their response, but you can also look at previous posts by other dads in a similar situation to your own on the legal thread to get a feel for what, I'm sorry to say you may have to go through, to re-establish contact.
Good luck.
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