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Was pretty tough. They refused to allow me to bring my sister in for moral support and note taking - despite no mention of having reservations of it previously. I got a copy of one of the two interviewers notes.
I got less than an hour - as they double booked the room.
Despite this I got a lot of important information across. Three main issues I came across and I need your help with one of the points
1) Allegations of DV. I deny this and say that all DV occurred directly at me. Tried showing evidence, they werent really interested. In her notes it states I deny the allegations of DV but there is a PNC check to confirm it did occur. To date I have never been charged, cautioned and have a clear enhanced CRB. I have done the police recall of data....cant see it, an allegation may have been made but I am not sure how the PNC can state this.
- should I write to the woman asking that this is clarified ahead of the report - in view of the above?
2) Suggested that I should not have contact unsupervised and that we should use a contact centre. I think she looked silly when I said I have unsupervised contact twice a week. She then asked for an observation with the kids next week - which again will go against what she wants and what is fact.
3) Allegations of porn - watching it in the kitchen. I of course denied these allegations and said these were malicious allegations. I then got asked if I ever watched porn.....daft question really...but I stated fact and said with my wife 😉
Any suggestions on point 1???
- Samaritans – call 116 123
- Shout – text the word ‘Shout’ to 85258