[Solved] My fight to be a Dad

I've moved your post here and given it a new topic title....I thought it would get seen much more here.

Aside from everything you have said, realistically, because your daughter doesn't know you, I would be looking at supervised contact for quite some time (but make sure you tell the court the reason, and not because you are accepting any of the allegations she has made) - this might make it easier for the court to agree with you. I'd certainly raise the point that you ex has told your daughter that you are dead - that's going to take quite a bit to sort out.

Thank you for your reply ,
Just wanted to let you know the courts have set a final hearing date for the fact finding date as been set for Aug

.My sister as witnessed a lot of thing in the passed she is classed as a miner the courts said it would be to much for her to attend she is 15years old and also wants to have contact with her nices , eventho my sister wants to speak The courst said its fine my mum know alot about me and my ex and she as wrote quite a few statements and it will be fine for my mum to attend would you know if thats a good sign or a bad signe as my ex claims she dosent really know my mother which again is a lie . My mum as kept hold of her old phones which my ex used to send rude and abuse texts to my mum . My ex as out my mum on struck evidence to prove as she claims she as never done this , My mum as printed them all off to give to the judge at the fact finding hearing . My ex is claiming stress and depression and keeps crying in court saying she cant understand why i am doing this to her as i dont want to really have contact with my daughter its a act to get to her . I would let my family help me pay for this if that was the case . we are pay privately Its cost us 9k so far would the courts see that i want to see my daughter or would they thing the same as her as my ex claims im only doing this to keep taps on her .

I am nervous as you hear of fathers not getting contact with their children because the mother as lied to the courts , and my family have help me so much with the cost i am really greatful to them .

you read so much about judges being really against father having contact with there children is this true ?

All I want is to be a dad to my daughter and for her to know who i am also her family on my side

Mate, the early events were truly dreadful & we all really feel for you...

First & foremost - well done for fighting this long - you have done the hardest bit - waiting.

Honestly, I am not sure that I would be as strong as you are !!!

Now that this is going through the county court/ district judge process - all your statements/ witnesses/ cross-examinations will show how bad your ex really is - lots of false accusations & parental alienation...trust me the judge, once seeing all this, will not be pleased.

From my experience with the court process/ judges do not want to exclude fathers - but err on side of caution when safeguard issues are raised. In your example, it has taken much longer than expected to eliminate the safeguard issues.

From your side - stay calm - let them make claims - FACT IS YOU ARE A FATHER...they are trying to unbalance you...they now realise that it is not going to go the way the ex/ her family have done so far.

In the best interest of your child it is important that you are able to build a solid bond & perform that role...FACT.

As actd says - making the claim that you are dead - will go down like a lead balloon in court.

Hopefully, a good outcome with positive contact order - regular supervised visits early on, followed by unsupervised...then overnights (hopefully).

Counting down...fingers crossed for you mate...keep us posted.

Thank you I really am greatful for your surport . I dont know what i will do if i dont get to see her my ex will walk out of the courts and laugh in my face I ahte to think what she as told my daughter about me , I am happy for supervised contact to start off with just to prove im not the person both mothers have made me out to be , You never know if the judges really do care and beleive you as the father ,we had to sack the solictor she wasnt any help what so ever all she was doing was taking all my parents money. So with the help from my mum and my barrister we have done most of this our selfs

Mate, forget about your ex - let her laugh...so what?
End result you build a great relationship with your child - you'll have the biggest smile !!!

She has been so unreasonable that the balance hopefully will tilt in your favour...

Smart move getting rid of useless solicitor - As long as you have a strong Barrister that can tell your version - you'll do fine.

You are paying top dollar for them - if it were me - during the preparation phase/ just before hearing date - I would get him or her to understand your expectation range with a plan presented to the judge.

Not only supervised contact for time x, but transition to unsupervised within time y...if the events prove successful - you intend to swiftly move onto overnights..

You mentioned ex getting legal aid when she shouldn't?
If so, you know this is wrong & illegal right...something could be done...if you wanted to.

Good Luck.

Thank you I really am greatful for your surport . I dont know what i will do if i dont get to see her my ex will walk out of the courts and laugh in my face I ahte to think what she as told my daughter about me , I am happy for supervised contact to start off with just to prove im not the person both mothers have made me out to be , You never know if the judges really do care and beleive you as the father ,we had to sack the solictor she wasnt any help what so ever all she was doing was taking all my parents money. So with the help from my mum and my barrister we have done most of this our selfs

I understand your feelings. I was in court this week for a review hearing, it was 99% sure I was going to get contact at this hearing. However the other party had something up their sleeve which they didn't reveal until we was in the hearing room. This resulted in it being sent back to Cafcass for a 6 week delay.

My ex's current partner was sat outisde the hearing room and when we come out him and my ex were celebrating like they had scored a goal in football. It was disgusting. I was disgusted for my child that the people caring for him acts like that.

But I just walked on by knowing one day it will be my day to celebrate.

she is getting l aid because she isn't working and as another child from her new partner. Her solicitor is upset that the criminal chargers were dropped against me however they are still trying to use them against me in the family courts , eventho my solicitor in that case wrote a statement to confirm it what dropped due to not enough evidence . Which I know what she said happened didn't . I pray everyday my new partner as two children of her own and we have a little one between us she even said my ex is unbelievable . her solicitor want me in the court room for a whole day even the judge turn around and couldn't understand why , Do you know what kind of questions they will ask me ?

THATS THE KIND OF THING SHE WOULD DO . once the bundles have been submitted they are not aloud to submit anything else from what ive been told

My case started in 2012 first hearing was may 2013 she had me arrested at the court and I didn't even do anything I was sitting in a separate room from her and her father.

she came into the same room as us and started laughing at my sister face. everyone wants to blame fathers and no one wants to blame the other party I hope yours goes well .

I was in court to this week fact finding and final hearing have been set for aug they are trying to get it brought forward as its been going on far to long the judge said and most of this is down to her submitting information late . its heart breaking for any dad to go through this process