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Hi All,
I'm new to this group. The issue that has brought me here is this. I have a daughter who is now two years old, her mother and I were never in a relationship. We met only twice. My name is on Poppy's birth certificate, but she does not have my surname. I live in Kenya (although I am british and will retrun to the UK at some point in the future) and Poppy lives in Devon with her mother. Since Poppy's birth I have been paying a good amount of money each month. To begin with I was happy to do this as I love my daughter and wish to make her life as good as is possible. Over time though her mother has been increasingly difficult and has almost stopped me seeing her on Skype, only gave me 2 days when I was back last time in June and now i'm at home for Christmas she has refused to let me see her at all. Another bone of contention is that I am not allowed to be involved in any parenting decisions, this would not be so bad if we agreed on most things but Poppys mother has some very alternative veiws on diet and healthcare. She has not given Poppy any vacinations and refuses to take her to the doctors or the dentist unless things get really bad. My first question to this forum is what are my financial legal obligations to Poppy and her mother? My second question is,.... is there any chance of my gaining custody of my daughter?
Many thanks
Adam
Hi Adam
The question on finance has been answered on your other thread.
With regards to residence, I would say that your chances of residence are very remote. A court would be very reluctant to move her from a home where she is settled to live with you where her contact has been very limited.
However, I would say that you do need to be sorting out contact - it's worth looking at mediation to see if you ex is prepared to work towards a solution, otherwise you would need to consider going for a contact order.
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