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Hi,
Can someone give me advice please, Have had my children every weekend for the last 5 years now my Ex wants to change the arragments to every other weekend. She has sent this is writing also stating I cant ring my children every night as I have always done and can now only call twice a week at alocated time.
She has said if I dont agree then she has refused me access to my childern until I do so.
Has she given any reason why? I imagine this routine has worked well given that it's been that way for five years. I'm sure someone else will be along with advice soon but didn't want to read and run mate
Hi There,
As said if this arrangement has worked then it seems that it should continue to work.
What reasons have been given for the change?
What age are the children?
The only reason I could see your ex claiming is that the current arrangement is interfering with school (if they are at that age)
I would maybe try and see if your ex will attend mediation so you are able to discuss this further and find a solution>
GTTS
They are 6 and 8 and the reason she has given is their new 2 year old sister misses them. The real reason is I have been fighting for the last 5 years to get a discount as I have them every weekend and in the school holidays and she tells CSA I have them every other weekend and CSA are on to her now.
Hi There,
Well that makes more sense.
I would as said try and get her to attend mediation so you can discuss it further.
Do you have a set court order in place or is it a private agreement?
GTTS
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