[Solved] my son

I like every other father here feel your pain at being separated from your child’s day to day life……but please do not try this!!!
Despite him being your child it would be classed as abduction by the authorities and that gets you in a whole heap of sh*te you don’t want to get in to!

How long do you get with your son and how often?
Is your ex a reasonable woman?

If you’ve an amicable ex and a good contact arrangement for seeing your son I’d try asking her if you could spend a little more time with your son…..if she refuses then you only really have mediation services and then final resort Court.

I’m currently fighting through the courts for defined contact order and now enforcement of the order but my ex is not a reasonable woman!! (even the judge and her solicitor used those words several times during the last 2yrs!)
I’ve only originally asked for what I understand to be the minimum contact>……
Weekends Fortnightly with a night/day through the week plus a number of weeks through the school holidays and time at other holidays (Xmas, Easter, half terms etc…)
however I want more time than that and in time I’d hope that she will realise its about our son not her and me!

If you cannot speak with her without it getting too emotionally charged try writing out a letter explaining how much you miss your son – use the words OUR SON – not MY SON – it less confrontational…..also if she’s a reasonable woman it may just remind her hat he’s part of both of you not just you or her.

If you need to go down the legal route then there are some really good people here who will share their experiences and offer some great advice….check out the “Stickys” at the top of the legal section if you decide on that route.

Stay strong and if you need to vent….drop by here and vent….we all need to from time to time.

hi thank you for your advice I didn't think it would be classed as abduction as hes my child too so thank you I get to share all the school holidays and 2 weekends in between the holidays we don't really speak but I've always seen my son I just want more

I spoke with a friend who's a police officer about what could she do if i just refused to take my child back when i last had him, he was the one that told me that if i was to do that it would be classed as Abuction.
Basically she's not given you permision to have your child any longer than a set time period.

even if you were fearful of him being harmed by her or others around her you would need cast iron proof of it before they'd understand and let you off!!

like i said before....try writing a letter apealing to her for more time with him....if all else fails then you have the options a lot of us on here have had to take.

hi oh right not a good idea then I just thought wwith having parental responsibility that there's nothing she could of done ,well thainks for your help .