[Solved] My statment for my CPPC Meeting in the morning

Hello Everyone,

As Ive spoken to a thew people on this forum i have a Child Protection Plan Conference in the morning, How ever i felt like it was necessary to make a short statement of some Concerns and achievements i would like from this meeting taking place do you think Ive gone over board with it or should i just hit the nail with the hammer with it??

here's a edited copy as i removed names from this copy I'm showing..... 😉

STATEMENT OF MYSELF
I was in a relationship with [My Ex] for a period of 14 months, and our daughter [daughter] was born in May 2012. However on 10/06/2012 Miss [My Ex] and I separated, at the mercy of [Ex] in connection to my daughter [daughter]-Mae.

I was and still am, unaware of my daughter's day to day welfare, because I was rarely updated or allowed to visit. When I try to make contact with [My Ex], it often ends in heated and unnecessary argument's... I simply want to discuss my daughter, but [My Ex] is continually trying to talk about our relationship. The conversations always end in shouting and lately, [My Ex] or her partner being abusive. I have many many text messages and voice recordings of the violent threats made against me by [My Ex]'s new partner, [his name]. The police have seen them and there is an ongoing investigation.

All I truly want to do is spend time with my child, but from the time she was born, this was made difficult for me. It has made me emotionally depressed. It also make's me feel like me and my daughter are being treated unfairly. I am saddened by the way my daughter has been used to hurt me, and I am truly devastated that I am never allowed to spend precious time with my child.

At the age of 5 months, I have only been allowed to have about 5% access to my daughter's life. I believe I am a kind hearted person who just wants to be part of my daughter's life. I feel like me, my daughter, along with both sides of her family are being mistreated to feed [Ex]'s hate.
I have had numerous reports from 3 close friend's of Miss [My Ex]. They had contacted me about my daughter's welfare.( I have photo's attached to this statement) The words her friends have used really concern me about my daughter's welfare!

I have been accused previously for apparent attempted kidnap of my daughter! When the actual facts of this is... I was traveling home from work at 23:30PM, when I saw my daughter being pushed through the streets in her pushchair. it was freezing cold and I was worried. I immediately called the police and explained the situation, asking whether I could take my daughter somewhere warm and safe. They Immediately stated that as her father I could do this. I was not attempting to hurt [My Ex], but had serious concern's for my daughter's welfare being out on dangerous streets at unsociable hours and I felt that my daughter was unsafe. I believe am fully in my right's as a parent to act upon my concerns, when I consider my daughter to be in danger and I knew that talking to her mother would simply result in an argument.

As for the separate allegations' that [Ex]'s has made stating "I threatened her with a knife" there is no evidence and I am vehemently deny the allegations, they are simply not true! I DID speak to [Ex] but only out of concern for my daughter. I merely asked where my daughter was. [Ex] acted aggressively towards me and started swearing and shouting. I believe she was drunk. I admit I responded but only with verbal word's. At no time did I make any threats towards her or show any signs of violence. [My Ex] will state that I was arrested for this, but the reality is that I was released without charge!

I believe that miss [My Ex] has made these allegations in an effort to try and limit my access to [daughter] - I also believe she has edited text messages on her phone in an attempt to make me look threatening - any police investigation will of course, have the telephones analysed and I am confident the real texts will be revealed.

I would like the board to know that whilst the relationship between [My Ex] and myself remains acrimonious, I am willing to try and put aside our differences for the sake of [daughter]. It is [daughter] who must come first now and all I want is to be a good, loving, responsible father. Whenever she is in my care, she is always happy, healthy and well looked after. i am able to care for her needs, can manage her day to day care needs and hope the courses listed below will give me extra knowledge to make me a more capable dad.

My Concern's for my daughter:

1. Health and safety issue. My daughter's bottle's were unclean at a supervised visit. (A manger from "supervised visit's" was a witness to this). She was left by [My Ex] with one dirty bottle that had been used and was empty. The other bottle had black debris ingrained into the bottles teat. I has to run the top for several minutes under scalding water to clean it before I could feed her.
My daughter has been left to sleep on floor's and sofa's overnight. I have photographs of her being left overnight on a sofa and have been informed by 2 of [My Ex]s friends that this is a regular ocurrance, and whilst they will support this, the have asked to remain anonymous. I fear sleeping in this environment could endanger her, and also cause health issue's to [daughter]-Mae.
I am also aware that her bottle's have been left in unsterile area's, and that she has been given bottles that have passed the recommended disposal time. As a chef, I am concerned about the way in which Bacteria could harm a small child and feel that this is wholly unsatisfactory.
I am also concerned about the unclean environment that my daughter is being brought up in - soiled nappies not disposed of properly, overflowing bin's, opened rubbish in and around her house, dirty clothes laying around, large amounts of dirty washing up! I have visited [My Ex]s' home a number of times and it is a very unhygenic environment for a baby.

2. I have a big concern about my daughter being kept out at unsociable hours and in serious weather conditions. This could in turn lead to my daughter being seriously ill, and could lead to my daughter being put into hospital. I consider there to be a real risk to her health. I know that there are occasions when it might be necessary for her mother to have her our, but I am concerned that it is regular and that my daughter is not properly clothed in this weather for such conditions.

3. [My Ex] has a new partner and his aggression towards both me and my family is terrifying!, He has tried to assault both my sister and me (all in front of care staff)! he appears to have no regard for my daughters safety and little respect for any of the service professionals involved in her welfare. He has shown considerable violence towards me, and abusive language. He has previous convictions for serious violence and continues to make threats of death and other violence to me via telephone and text messages. The police are investigating these and have been given the phones connected with this. I was subjected to a vicious assault recently and suffered serious facial injuries, including the loss of several teeth. I am now very cautious about anyone who becomes aggressive. I believe he regularly uses controlled substances around my daughter and am extremely concerned about him being around my daughter..he appears to be unable to control his rage and I fear he could seriously harm my daughter. Being subjected to such an aggressive and unpredictable person could result in one if not more of the following problems ... Physical Complaints, Eating Problems, Trouble Sleeping - Nightmares, Disruptive Behavior and even Imitation. Or at the very worse death through an impulsive act of anger filled aggression.

4. Emotional neglect - failing to provide emotional support such as emotional security and encouragement.
I understand that drug's and alcohol abuse is being used around my daughter, both by [My Ex] and her partner.
I have reports from reasonable source's that [My Ex] has left my daughter unattended and unsupervised many of time's. On one occasion, [daughter] was left in an aisle in a shop whilst [My Ex] left and went to another part of the store. There was none supervising her and anyone could have simply strolled up to the pushchair and taken her.
I have photo graphic evidence of my daughter being dressed up in an abusive manner. On one occasion, she was wrapped entirely in toilet paper for a joke. On another, she was smeared with face paint. My daughter is not yet old enough to speak her mind, but I feel that this was degrading and improper for a baby of her age, not to mention possible reactions to her skin.

I would respectfully request that my concerns be taken seriously and acted upon immediately. I feel my concerns show a high risk to my daughter's everyday living and welfare. She is being treated in an un-humain manner! I believe that [My Ex] could be a good mother and do not doubt that she loves [daughter], but feel that because she is young, and like me, has little experience, she would also benefit from some parenting guidance. I am lucky that I have the support of my mother but I understand [My Ex] is still not close to her own mother and may be missing out on help she needs to develop her parenting skills.

I would also ask that visit's with my daughter should no longer be supervised. I feel that I have demonstrated I am more than capable of taking care of [daughter] for longer periods of time that the 2 hours I get and would ask that I be given proper access, including an overnight stay. . .2 Hours a week is not enough time for us to bond. In the short amount of time I have my daughter, she mainly sleep's because she is young and does not have a set sleep pattern. I would like to have enough time to play with her and enjoy the benefits of having quality time with her now she is growing.

I have asked Donnington doorstep to provide support on how my visit's have been, and have been told I have fully proved I am more then capable of looking after my daughter by myself.

I would like to add that I am attending or about to attend the following course's listed below, which I consider to show I am willing and able to take full care of my daughter .

Course's I am attending:

1. I am currently attending a Parenting Course.

2. I have a First Aid course coming up soon - I Feel this would help me incase my daughter ever needed medical care whilst [daughter]-Mae is in my care.

3. I am waiting for a place on an Anger Management Course - i have registered because I believe it will help me to cope in difficult situations that may occur in the future, not because I have an anger problem - far from it. I would consider myself to be fearful of anger since my assault.

4. I have two savings accounts for my daughter, that I frequently put money into
First account is for arrangement's of my daughter's maintenance payment's that i have arranged with the CSA and a total of £30 is paid into this account weekly, As of the last meeting Miss [My Ex] was told about this.

Secound account is saving's for my daughter's future she can only use this account when she is 18 years old, As i want the best for her. I Refuse to mention how much i pay into this account.

I Have also asked for my name to be put down for any other course that will help me be a great father to my daughter .