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Need some advice, in a rather diffuclt situation, found out at xmas i had a 6 month old son, with woman had one night stand with. Since then i have tried doin the right thing by giving her money each week and buying him clothes and toys, all access was with her present even allowed her to stay at my mothers house for a weekend as lives over 100 miles away, i wasnt happy with it but bit my tounge so i could spend some proper ime with him. Now this weekend it was agreed that i could take him out for day without her present, so my whole family 10 of us in total drove over there booked into a hotel night before then 15 mins before due to pick him up she says cant have him unless she came also. Long storey short didnt get to see him it wasnt just the expnse and the 300 mile round trip i was guitted, now i am not on birth cert, why do i go from here? Help!
Hi Kelvin and welcome.
I think this is one I'll ask the CCLC to comment on, so keep checking back here.
Dear Kelvin123,
Firstly, I would strongly advise you obtain parental responsibility. Currently, you do not have this as you are not on the birth certificate. You can do this one of two ways. If you feel the mother may agree to this you could use a parental responsibility agreement by obtaining a PRA1 form and file this at the court with the appropriate fee. If the mother does not agree to this you would need to apply to the court for a parental responsibility order using a form C1.
The forms can be obtained from www.justice.gov.uk and would need to be filed at your child’s local family proceedings court or county court with the appropriate fee.
In relation to contact as there are no court orders in place and your child mainly resides with their mother contact is at her discretion. If you are unhappy about the contact she is providing it is advisable to try to negotiate with her as much as possible and perhaps suggest mediation. As a last resort you can make an application to the court for a contact order. The form you would require is a C100 form (to be found and filed as above).
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Yours sincerely,
Coram Children’s Legal Centre
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