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Hi all,
Im having some serious problems with being allowed to see my daughter who is now 16 months old.
I only see her for one hour at the weekend and am always flexible if the time or day needs to be changed. For example, being christmas time, my daughters maternal grandparents were down so I and her mother arranged a different day for me to see her so she could see them. However, when it comes to my parents being able to see her, she makes it as difficult as possible.
I had already asked her if it would be okay to take my daughter to see my parents and grandparents who live only 15mins in a car away. She wasn't comfortable with our daughter travelling in the car with anyone other than herself so she said she would drop her to my parents house. Now she is denying that she had ever agreed to this and will only drop our daughter to my house because 'it doesn't suit her'. That is her only explanation.
Now, you might say to get my parents and grandparents to come and see her at my house but my parents have 4 other boys and cant get everyone in the car and my grandparents aren't well so it is not as easy for them to just jump in the car and come out.
My dad has offered to go and pick up my daughter but as I said earlier she will not allow our daughter to travel with anyone but herself.
I do not know what to do, I am always flexible with her plans but as soon as I ask to change things once, all [censored] breaks loose?
I would also love to see her for longer and when I ask her mum says its fine but there is always an excuse it cant be this week or next week even if it is only because she enjoys her afternoons with her.
Can I apply for a Contact Order in this situation?
Thanks,
Mark
Hi Mark,
You could go down the legal route but have you considered mediation? It sounds like the two of you are communicating at the moment, which is great. With some help from some trained mediators the two of you may be.able to come to an agreement without getting the courts involved.
National Family Mediation is a great service which may be able to help you. Their website is located here www.nfm.org.uk . It is worth a try first.
If you still want some advice regarding the legal route - then we can help with that as well.
Gooner.
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