[Solved] need help urgently!!!!1

Hi

when you say it says, your house does not meet the terms, who said this ?

my ex ....

ex not seen how I live so I do not even know......but it has a claim to take my daughter as I do on the weekend she sleeps in the bedroom and I will go into the living room on the couch....He told me to buy a cot for the baby and send her a picture as it does not not see daughter I can not Find an access anywhere what conditions must have for me to stay for the night .... and I only have two nights a month

Do you have an official Contact Order that was decided at court?

Am I right in understanding that your daughter sleeps in your bedroom, in your bed, and you sleep on the couch when she stays with you?

How old is she? If she is a baby and still needs to sleep in a cot, this may be the reason the mother has concerns.

We have written a contract with a lawyer .... it says when I see daughter and at what time .... my daughter is almost 4 years ... sleeping alone in a room in the big bed and I'm in the next room

Only the worst part is that she did not have any pretensions about it before......but in her house my daughter sleeps in the room with her ​​brother.........This is unfair to me......because my ex just enforces what she wants......and he wants to show me I do not have nothing to say......

so please help if you know where I find out something or help someone ..... please give me leads..... :boohoo: :boohoo: :boohoo:

Hi again

At 4yrs old she is old enough to sleep in a bed and as you say, this arrangement has been in place and was accepted until recently. How long has this arrangement been in place?

I would suggest asking the mother to attend mediation to talk through the issues. There is a charge for this but if you are unemployed or on a low income, you might be entitled to Legal Aid. When you use the mediation service both you and the ex will have a meeting with a trained mediator, seperately at first but then a meeting will be set up for both of you to attend and talk through all the problems and hopefully find some solutions. Heres a link ~ www.nfm.org.uk

If mediation doesnt help then you can apply to the court for a defined contact order. Theres plenty of information here that will help if you need to go down this route. Solicitors can cost thousands unless you are entitled to Legal Aid, so many Dads go for Self representation. To apply for contact through the court you would first need to get a C100 form, fill it in and take it to the family court in your area. This costs £200. There are a couple of stickys at the top of the Legal Eagle section, the first is called "Contact order C100 Guide", this is all about the form you would need to apply to court with. The second sticky is called "A Guide to Representing yourself in Court", this has lots of useful information about the court process.

Good luck with it all 🙂

thank you ....

We have already had such a meeting for which I pay...whit mediation....have written everything I have when I can and when I can not.....but my ex starts to invent started on this that I have come to the daughter half an hour later and I devote half an hour earlier.....as I started to meet other women that told me that I would never see the child....(but she left me for another men ) I took the child to the grandmother on the way back closed the way I called and told her that I can be later.she agrre...and that was only 15 minutes later than I have to give her up.....but she had done .... not led daughters to school and told the psychologist that the child does not risen since dad brought her home on time.....and it was 6.15pm 🙁 makes me a problem with everything and says that I have to be happy that I see my beby....I think it is malice and I have something to do with it.....

so your daughter is 4years old and sleeps in your bed and you on the couch twice a month, why on earth would you need a cot ! she is to old for a cot she should be in a bed, does your ex think she should have her own bed. I think your ex is just trying to stop your daughter staying with you over night, is your ex letting you see her during the day?

sorry just read the other posts.
your ex is controlling you via your daughter, this is what a lot of women do when you want to move on with your life . you have every right to move on, how did she find out about you dating, just do not tell her anything . as for her telling the school that it was your fault is her making things look bad for you, . you will need to get a proper contact order in place or you will have this for years and years

good morning !
that is, you think that I should go to court with this....Or are some people somewhere they could to help me in this situation?

I would give mediation one more try and then i would go to court. If you get legal aid I would do it quick as legal aid is being stopped in April 2013. Lots of dads on here have gone to court with no solicitor. If you read the sticky on the legal section it explains how to do it

thank you so much ..... but i have a one more question ....
maybe you know some website where it says that I have to fulfill the conditions to take a child into your home.........
If you could get back to me soonest, I would appreciate it.

There aren't any written rules, it's subjective but if the house is clean and tidy, and the child has an appropriate space to themselves, there shouldn't be a problem.