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Sorry if I've posted in the wrong section but I thought that I may be able to get some support / advice.
Having posted on here a couple of times over certain issues regarding my ex wife and 2 boys I'd like to share what has happened today.
In the 6 weeks holidays, our eldest son went on a school summer camp that is arranged every year for under privilidged children providing the kids with an opportunity on getting a holiday that may not have. Having found this out, I questioned my ex wife about it and she told me that because he did so well in his school year, the school had decidied to give him a place. Now, the issue is that my kids are disadvantaged by the school, not that he went away. So, not trusting a word that she tells me I decided to make an appointment with the school to get to the bottom of it and also voice some other concerns that I have.
Today, myself and my wife went to have a chat with the Head of the school, and as soon as we had sit down he looked very nervous and concerned. This took me by surprise as the times I have spoken to him in the past he has always been welcoming and pleasant, but today appeared very on edge.
After talking about certain issues and that the school has never kept me in loop even though I requested it, we got to the niity gritty of how my son got selected for the camp. The reality is that because of how many children my ex wife has and how they turn up some days for school, the Head placed him on the list.The Head has also given information on other concerns about my ex and her other sons and that since our meeting last year, he has tried and failed to contact her directly and even paid a visit to her house with no success and that he has started the ball rolling with the Social Services. He then asked if I would like to make a formal complaint to him with regards to the issues that I have which I agreed to. He then invited us to pop into the boys class rooms which I agreed to simply because I knew that the boys would tell their mum which may give her a kick up the [censored]. The usual text messages eventually came with her saying the Head said a lot of things that we never even discussed in her usual panicked manor.
Moral of the story is that its all not doom and gloom and that finally something is being done about the way she neglects them and that the school has the same concerns I have
That's good news...a word of caution though, the school in my area reported my grandsons mother for physical abuse to the SS! They looked into it and decided that no action was needed! The SS here though leave much to be desired so I hope that your is up to scratch. Hopefully the Head will contact you in future when an issue arises.
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