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my wife and I split up in January after 4 years married, I was seeing the kids every weekend, then she demanded more month off me and i said to her that I am sticking to our arrangement of £60 direct debit or we can go through csa which she will get no more than £54. with that she said that I can only see then kids every other weekend, this happened once.
a week after this, i get a letter from her solicitor, saying that i have attempted to strange my son, and if i want to see my kids i have to take her to court. This of course is utter [censored]!!!! I would ever do that!!! A few months go by and letters are sent back and forth with me trying to compromise, then i find out though a friend that she has blocked me on Facebook, then telling everyone over Facebook that i have raped her!!! Once again, utter [censored]!!!
Over 4 months later, i still haven't seen my kids!!!
just sent of my forms to take her to court, but its so so expensive to have a solicitor and I cant afford it so I am representing myself!!
I am very nervous about this and I have never been to court!! so does anyone have any tips or pointers that can help me get through court and what/how to say things???
AND YES!!! SHE IS A NUTCASE!!!
I first went to court over 2 years ago,I was paying a solicitor and felt I could do the job just as well,so I dispensed with their services.The CAFCASS lady I had spoke to me and helped me through the procedures of the court and it's something i'd do again if i had to. My ex's solicitor (legal aid funded) came to see me and tried to offer me minimal contact but i kept firm,knowing I was a good dad with good reports from the school and CAFCASS so I held out for the time that I wanted with my boys. The court were very receptive I found and on more than one occasion the judge rebuked my ex saying I was a good dad and they were not iust her children they were both of ours. Just keep calm,rational but never stop fighting as the children are as much yours as they are hers. If you were good enough for her to bring them into the world you are good enough to have a good say in their upbringing
I read so many stories about ex’s lies, false allegations and slanderous comments so many times in contact disputes…….why oh why can we not bring court action against these ex’s for slander and defamation of our characters?
If we were famous people with expensive lawyers we’d be able to make people pay for their lies and slander!!!
Sorry to go off topic but it makes my blood boil that these ex’s just use our children to hurt us! They cannot not see past their hatred / revenge / jealous / evilness that it’s the kids that suffer!!! :boohoo: 😡
Arrrrghhhhhh !!!!
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thank you to all!!
it has been very hard as im sure you can imagine over the last 4 months not having my kids in my life, and by the time the court case is sorted which apparently could take 6 months, it would have been 1 year without seeing the kids!!!!
its been very easy to get over my split up with her, and love turned to hate VERY quickly!! 😡 but im not slagging her off to anyone, im not making up lies about her!! I could make something up and say in court that she is a prostitute, but that wont get me anyone, and im not like that!
I must admit, im not looking forward to court, more for the fact that she will bring the kids there, knowing that i haven't seen them in a long time! and then how her solicitor is going to ask questions, i know i have to listen carefully to the questions as they try to twist things!
Have a good read of Yoji's Guide to Representing Yourself in Court at the top of the legal section. has been a big help since i found it...as has this site and its members.
it is daunting being in court for the time on your own but once the judge see's the truth through all the smoke and cr*p your ex will try you'll be fine....stick with the truth and make sure you can back up every thing you rely on......she'll come unstuck if you have the proof and she has only her word...(or lies she can't prove!)
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