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Hi
I am a Non Residential Parent. I have a son who is 9 years old. I have had to go to court to get a sensible contact order. I see him once a fortnight and his holidays are split 50:50. My ex and I do not communicate effectively; there is a lot of blame, hurt and misunderstanding. There is certainly no trust and she is not forthcoming with information that would be useful to me.
A situation has arisen where I felt it necessary to know what was in his medical records. This was to ensure that I was well informed of his medical history should anything occur whilst he was with me. Up until recently I had to rely on the mother and to some extent my son by informing me of his ailments and any necessary treatment.
I wrote to his doctor with proof that I was the father. They have replied with the following "After prolonged conversation with your son, I am of the opinion that he is Gillick Competent to make a decision about parental access to his medical records. He has made the decision that you should not have access to his health records."
I was disappointed with this reply as I felt it was in contravention to my right as a father to my son. Further, I'd go as far to say that my ex cajoled my son to saying this. My son is 'run the mill' child. Does this mean now that he has his destiny in his own hands? What determines whether a child can make this decision for themselves? Has anyone else had experience of this? What benefit is this to the child?
I'd understand if he was in turning into a teenager, but he's 9 years old and now deemed Gillick Competent!
I'd be interested to hear other people’s opinion on this and any legal perspective.
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