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I've been voluntarily? paying £1200 a month since I moved out 2 years ago and only just now reduced it to £750 a month (which is around CMS for £60k salary even though I'm on £50k), so nobody can say I haven't been trying!
I guess I will see what is said this coming week with the consent order wording. My stance is that if I give up the house, I'm not going to sign up to a nominal maintenance schedule, I want as clean a break as I can get. She's already having me stay on the mortgage for 3 years until remortgage time.
Interesting to hear on the CMS being powerless outside the UK, hopefully that's why the 'just pay this much a month and then increase it by inflation' proposal.
We do have reciprocal arrangements with other countries, called REMOs - Reciprocal Enforcement of Maintenance Orders.
It would be worth your while to do some research about what arrangements are in place between the UK and the countries you live in.
wouldn't know where to start being honest.
It seems to wording in the consent order is now a sticking point. She's conceded on the gap year for child maintenance but is adamant that 'best endeavours' will suffice for getting me off the mortgage and that nominal maintenance has to remain in place.
I don't trust her at all and would have thought that me giving her the house at the very least would remove the nominal???
why are you giving her the house? is it not possible to split it, and you just carry on paying child maintenance?
In order to avoid going to final hearing, she suggested I give her the house and she would 'accept' my offer of CMS (I'm paying slightly above as mentioned earlier). I said ok to that on the basis there is no funny business in the terms of the consent order, which to me there is.
I have agreed to stay on the mortgage for 3 years until she remortgages, but she seems unwilling to put a hard date in there, resorting to 'best endeavours' which is useless. So that's one strike.
She wants CMS paid till my youngest finishes tertiary (one degree) with a gap year...so that's what, 23? She's willing to drop the gap year (so kind).
She wants a nominal maintenance order, that's the killer for me. I do not want to pay adult maintenance, in any circumstance to her. Is she being reasonable though? Is it normal to expect this? Is it actually something I should be worried about?
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